I was texting everyday with cute girl... She seemed too perfect, and despite being hot and having many options, she chosen me, I am probably her looksmatch or a bit below (but women nowadays can date up by far). We have been chatting for a year, and sometimes she was weird, but I didnt realize it and just though shes mysterious. But anyway we've met at last sunday, and instead of the girl whose photos i saw, someone other said hi to me. I thought she couldnt come and this 35 year old guy was her brother that she sent to explain her. But after explaining he said that I've been always chatting with him just that he was scared to reveal hes a guy. We talked for a while, I was trying to maintain friendly vibes despite being very sad inside, while he was being flirty. After about 15minute walk I said I have to go, thanks for meeting and that it was great to meet you. He was shocked that i left so early. And he began calling me even before I came back to home. I don't know what to do. I think I will never trust anyone anymore.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I was being deceived for a year
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Serenity
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So you got catfished by a gay dude? If I were you I'd be insulted, tell him I'm not gay and that I particularly hate liars. Then I'd get up, leave and block him.
I would not even try to be friendly about it and definitely not say it was great to meet him. He lied to and tried to manipulate a straight man, that's unacceptable.
I would not even try to be friendly about it and definitely not say it was great to meet him. He lied to and tried to manipulate a straight man, that's unacceptable.
The thing is i was too shocked because i wwas textin with her for many hours daily that i have fallen in love with my image of her but to my surprise it was some gay dude in his 30s. and i feel like i cant trust anyone on internet anymore
andreihaha
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Even a week without a date is a red flag to me.
I don't chat with women 1 year before meeting them.
But then again, neither did you.
We learn through mistakes.
I don't chat with women 1 year before meeting them.
But then again, neither did you.
We learn through mistakes.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lamath
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Dafuk........
Too many things wrong with that post
Serenity
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That's the mistake you made, you fell in love with an image and how you imagined her. Do not ever invest emotion into someone you've never met. Mild interest is fine, but until you've met her a couple of times you have nothing substantial to even begin forming any feelings. It will just be you falling in love with a product of your own imagination.
You can't. Save it until you've met them personally a few times. If you don't invest emotion into it prior to meeting them you won't be as crushed when it turns out the apparent hottie is a guy dude.
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OP has been deceived for much longer than a year. He doesnt get it. He will never get it.
Chatting for a year? None of OPs posts make any sense.....every. Always a hater.
Never had a phone call in a YEAR?
She seemed too perfect and you never met the person?
You are too far gone dude. Total troll. You are officially the worst contributor to this forum.
Chatting for a year? None of OPs posts make any sense.....every. Always a hater.
Never had a phone call in a YEAR?
She seemed too perfect and you never met the person?
You are too far gone dude. Total troll. You are officially the worst contributor to this forum.
lamath
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I am sorry but what makes you say that? This is clearly abusive attempt of an assault against me.
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Trolls gonna troll
This guys going to sue @Glassguy
Well, cheer up and look at the bright side, you’re lucky because he could have shown up and been twice your size, horny as hell, and had forced rape on his mind…
Probably need to up your online screening game there…
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MountainSlide
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One day I started chatting with this girl via internet. She had lots of pictures, was pretty good looking, and couldn’t google reverse image with any results. This went on for 4-7 days. Then *maybe-she called me and I heard a tv in the background. I said hello. And the phone just hung up. I had tried to get her in the phone for a couple days but she said she was too shy. I saw this as a clear sign that I was talking with a dude so ended communication immediately. I think my final message was “pre-op or post op”.
Atom Smasher
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OP, this is the danger of allowing an idealized image of someone to occupy your thoughts. You were probably afraid to meet her earlier in the year, thinking the imaginary bubble might burst. Better to live in the fantasy than to face potential huge disappointment is the fuel of this scenario.
I always advise men... NEVER live in limbo with a girl. Always get to the bottom of what's really going on and how she really feels and who she really is. It's always better to know the truth than to live in false hope.
I always advise men... NEVER live in limbo with a girl. Always get to the bottom of what's really going on and how she really feels and who she really is. It's always better to know the truth than to live in false hope.
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It took you 29 years to figure this out?
taiyuu_otoko
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Sucker born every minute.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.