"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I was a natural as a child. How did transformation happen?

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cloneofstenyhoyer

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and I'm sure many on this forum were as well. I remember tonguing girls down in 1st grade at my birthday party. I was a pimp on top of the world. I use to tease girls and get them to be my girlfriends - easy as pie. Then - social conditioning happened. But how did this this happen. What conditioned me to be anti-social? to be scared of women? to second guess myself? to give too much significance to my interactions with women?

was it the media? school?

I don't know. Maybe someone on here does.

I do have some success with women (I've slept with over 10) - I've had 3 relationships lasting over two years - but I still run into anxiety around women. I still often times 'not knowing what to do' or find myself being needy or even arrogant (since I know I've had success in the past). I alternate sometimes between a 'what will she think of me' ego state and a 'I've had success in the past with women' ego. both are traps. especially the latter because it is harder to see as a problem. I get this 'cooler than everyone else, too cool to talk to anyone' type ego thing going on - and this is harder to break than afc habits.

how do I balance and become how I was as a 5 year old boy?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Think about this: How much did you care of how you came off to people when you were 5? You wore anything, said anything without being ashamed of yourself.
If you did the same now, I'd just say you have balls and confidence. I guess you're thinking about what you're doing and how you're coming off to other people too much. Work on your inner game, improve your self-confidence and just be happy with yourself. You can't be loved before you start loving yourself and the more you do, the more other people will, too. :)
 
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Obviously you need to go back to gaming 5 year olds. ;)
 
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