Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Kudos...You've mentioned some real bangers!Creed - Aventus, Erolfa, Royal Oud, Viking
Tom Ford - Oud wood, Tuscan Leather, Tobacco Oud Intense
Calvin Klein - Obsession. This would be my favorite non niche/private
I would stray from the commercial ones which are mentioned heavily throughout. If every other post is recommending Aqua Di Gio, you will probably smell like most others. Which I don’t like., personally
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Some of the guys had put together different colognes so that you utilize as they are designed. Some for work, sports wear, cold weather, warm weather, casual, clubbing and pheromones.I caved and got Nautica Voyage as a simple Xmas gift from a family member. I'll be using it as a daily classroom wear fragrance, as I'll likely be among a younger crowd. Blue scents usually get it right.
Yep, I'm doing it too now that I have 7 frags. I've definitely got more warmer weather scents than winter ones. A few are in-between and can possibly be pulled off year-round. My winter heavy hitters: YSL La Nuit De L'homme and Sauvage. Summer: Versace Pour Homme, Voyage. Then there are 3 more that are classics but still relevant in my collection. Overall, I still like the blue scents best. Watch out for s*** like Hugo Boss, it was all overrated and you can manage to find cheap colognes at the rack stores that are surprisingly underrated (and don't always smell cheap). <<<check YT for reviews on "cheapies" to get an idea before buying, since you more than likely will have to blind buy them in those stores.Some of the guys had put together different colognes so that you utilize as they are designed. Some for work, sports wear, cold weather, warm weather, casual, clubbing and pheromones.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.