I used a backhanded compliment I got from this forum , basically this girl nice body gym gear always comes in for a coffee in her gym gear, she was talking about exercise , so I said why do you exercise so much your not even that fat, after that I asked what are you up to on the weekend, she said nothing much and then she asks me what are you doing, I replied going to this Halloween party's that are popular where I live , then she asks me what about Saturday night I didn't reply is this s iOi?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I used a backhanded compliment
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I said it basically she was talking about a pergnet girl at her work, and I thought she was pergnet herself , and she's always in her gym gear so I said are you pergnet she said no way , I said basically well why do you exercise so much your not that fat .
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Advice: Never ask a women if she is free are what she is doing on a weekend, this makes you look weak. TELL HER what you are doing and ask her out, if she is busy, then she'll tell you and if she likes you she'll suggest something else, when she does this and yo are available take it, this is a strong IOI. If she says no without a counter offer get her number, if it's a good number call in in a few days ask her out, if she gives you excuses without a counter, flush the number and forget about her.
So... you stopped responding and ended the conversation there for no apparent reason...?
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
This is solid advice. +1.
Always be a man with a plan who sometimes invites others into his activities.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well I was making chit chat fair enough , it was like what you up to on the weekend , and then she's asking me what I'm doing because the few times we chatted she's always doing nothing on the week end , so I was telling her I was busy I understand what you mean ranger mike , well next time she comes in to my work any ideas how I should proceed , what's the best things to talk about when I see her next ?