I used a backhanded compliment I got from this forum , basically this girl nice body gym gear always comes in for a coffee in her gym gear, she was talking about exercise , so I said why do you exercise so much your not even that fat, after that I asked what are you up to on the weekend, she said nothing much and then she asks me what are you doing, I replied going to this Halloween party's that are popular where I live , then she asks me what about Saturday night I didn't reply is this s iOi?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I used a backhanded compliment
- Thread starter Thechamp
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I said it basically she was talking about a pergnet girl at her work, and I thought she was pergnet herself , and she's always in her gym gear so I said are you pergnet she said no way , I said basically well why do you exercise so much your not that fat .
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Advice: Never ask a women if she is free are what she is doing on a weekend, this makes you look weak. TELL HER what you are doing and ask her out, if she is busy, then she'll tell you and if she likes you she'll suggest something else, when she does this and yo are available take it, this is a strong IOI. If she says no without a counter offer get her number, if it's a good number call in in a few days ask her out, if she gives you excuses without a counter, flush the number and forget about her.
So... you stopped responding and ended the conversation there for no apparent reason...?
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
This is solid advice. +1.
Always be a man with a plan who sometimes invites others into his activities.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well I was making chit chat fair enough , it was like what you up to on the weekend , and then she's asking me what I'm doing because the few times we chatted she's always doing nothing on the week end , so I was telling her I was busy I understand what you mean ranger mike , well next time she comes in to my work any ideas how I should proceed , what's the best things to talk about when I see her next ?