I used a backhanded compliment I got from this forum , basically this girl nice body gym gear always comes in for a coffee in her gym gear, she was talking about exercise , so I said why do you exercise so much your not even that fat, after that I asked what are you up to on the weekend, she said nothing much and then she asks me what are you doing, I replied going to this Halloween party's that are popular where I live , then she asks me what about Saturday night I didn't reply is this s iOi?
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I used a backhanded compliment
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I said it basically she was talking about a pergnet girl at her work, and I thought she was pergnet herself , and she's always in her gym gear so I said are you pergnet she said no way , I said basically well why do you exercise so much your not that fat .
RangerMIke
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Advice: Never ask a women if she is free are what she is doing on a weekend, this makes you look weak. TELL HER what you are doing and ask her out, if she is busy, then she'll tell you and if she likes you she'll suggest something else, when she does this and yo are available take it, this is a strong IOI. If she says no without a counter offer get her number, if it's a good number call in in a few days ask her out, if she gives you excuses without a counter, flush the number and forget about her.
So... you stopped responding and ended the conversation there for no apparent reason...?
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
This is solid advice. +1.
Always be a man with a plan who sometimes invites others into his activities.
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Well I was making chit chat fair enough , it was like what you up to on the weekend , and then she's asking me what I'm doing because the few times we chatted she's always doing nothing on the week end , so I was telling her I was busy I understand what you mean ranger mike , well next time she comes in to my work any ideas how I should proceed , what's the best things to talk about when I see her next ?