"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I **** up before even speaking.

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AlphaNate

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I don't understand. You've never spoken to her? What makes you think she's "playing" with you?
 
wifehunter

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kurcina said:
With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
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I would just say "hi" and see where it goes from there.
 
dustmuffin

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Say Hi can you move your purse I'd like to sit down. She does with an Im sorry. You sit down and start to chat. Easy if you just do it. Quit making up excuses.
 
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If you want to approach her and cant quite get the nerve maybe try some practice approaches on some other women? Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.

Welcome to SS!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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raider87

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logicallefty said:
Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.
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This is what I've learned to do. It takes me a bit to warm up socially, especially in the mornings.
 
TheGambino

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
 
wifehunter

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TheGambino said:
Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
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Yes, Pook was the master at self respect, from what I gathered! :D
 
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