"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I **** up before even speaking.

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AlphaNate

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I don't understand. You've never spoken to her? What makes you think she's "playing" with you?
 

wifehunter

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
I would just say "hi" and see where it goes from there.
 

dustmuffin

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Say Hi can you move your purse I'd like to sit down. She does with an Im sorry. You sit down and start to chat. Easy if you just do it. Quit making up excuses.
 

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If you want to approach her and cant quite get the nerve maybe try some practice approaches on some other women? Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.

Welcome to SS!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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raider87

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Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.
This is what I've learned to do. It takes me a bit to warm up socially, especially in the mornings.
 

TheGambino

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
 

wifehunter

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
Yes, Pook was the master at self respect, from what I gathered! :D
 
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