"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I **** up before even speaking.

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AlphaNate

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I don't understand. You've never spoken to her? What makes you think she's "playing" with you?
 

wifehunter

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
I would just say "hi" and see where it goes from there.
 

dustmuffin

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Say Hi can you move your purse I'd like to sit down. She does with an Im sorry. You sit down and start to chat. Easy if you just do it. Quit making up excuses.
 

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If you want to approach her and cant quite get the nerve maybe try some practice approaches on some other women? Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.

Welcome to SS!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.
This is what I've learned to do. It takes me a bit to warm up socially, especially in the mornings.
 

TheGambino

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
 

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
Yes, Pook was the master at self respect, from what I gathered! :D
 
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