"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I **** up before even speaking.

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AlphaNate

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I don't understand. You've never spoken to her? What makes you think she's "playing" with you?
 

wifehunter

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With some girls I make a look, and it's really not a situation to approach and we see each other couple days in a row and we just end up playing "whos ignoring who this time" games...
Should I just approach her and that's it?
My excuse was today, this girl(we're playing the ignoring game) I wanted to approach she was sitting on a bench waiting for the same bus as I did and didn't approach her because she had her purse on the place next to her so I could not sit anywhere...
Then we enter the bus and end up standing one in front of each other...
Not a word spoken so far with her.... Why I want her is because she's cute, and literally lives 2 minutes from me...
I would just say "hi" and see where it goes from there.
 

dustmuffin

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Say Hi can you move your purse I'd like to sit down. She does with an Im sorry. You sit down and start to chat. Easy if you just do it. Quit making up excuses.
 

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If you want to approach her and cant quite get the nerve maybe try some practice approaches on some other women? Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.

Welcome to SS!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

raider87

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Go find some you have little or even no interest in and approach them. Build your confidence a little bit.
This is what I've learned to do. It takes me a bit to warm up socially, especially in the mornings.
 

TheGambino

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
 

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Read the DJ bible, it's stickied. Start with Pook and read everything you can find. Then go out and start doing it, after that we will help you with your adventures.
Yes, Pook was the master at self respect, from what I gathered! :D
 
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