"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I called up a girl I met with a couple days ago, and set up a date with her to go rock climbing in a couple days.

I could tell she was very surprised by the idea, but was excited...she hasn't done it before, and she felt a little uneasy. At the same time, she's very curious about it, and I think it will definately make for a good second date.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rock climbing is a good action date. Are you going to at least let her get a little practice on a indoor climbing wall?
 
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Yeah there's a cool indoor gym in the area and I plan on taking her there.

I have only climbed a couple times, so it's just for fun!
 
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Cool, see if you can belay her yourself. Wouldn't want some other guy having all the fun looking up her shorts. :p
 
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i just did this exact thing on a first date. it went pretty well, but may have been a little much for a first date with a girl i barely know. but it was fun.

good luck, mate.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Cool, see if you can belay her yourself. Wouldn't want some other guy having all the fun looking up her shorts. :p
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The problem is that I've only climbed a couple times, and I don't know how to belay.

I'll try to take the class before we go, but if not, I guess it's not that much of a big deal.
 
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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
The problem is that I've only climbed a couple times, and I don't know how to belay.

I'll try to take the class before we go, but if not, I guess it's not that much of a big deal.
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Trust me, there is a difference when you are controlling the ropes. If you're into it, learn how to do it. You'll appreciate having the skill. ;)
 
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Originally posted by School
Not if she is one of those manicured types, with the long nails....... :(
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I don't think that's going to be a problem. Sounds like she was surprised but excited about trying it.
 
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