"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

I think this is an Awesome 2nd Date

W

WORKEROUTER

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2003
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
9
Location
WA
I called up a girl I met with a couple days ago, and set up a date with her to go rock climbing in a couple days.

I could tell she was very surprised by the idea, but was excited...she hasn't done it before, and she felt a little uneasy. At the same time, she's very curious about it, and I think it will definately make for a good second date.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Rock climbing is a good action date. Are you going to at least let her get a little practice on a indoor climbing wall?
 
W

WORKEROUTER

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2003
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
9
Location
WA
Yeah there's a cool indoor gym in the area and I plan on taking her there.

I have only climbed a couple times, so it's just for fun!
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Cool, see if you can belay her yourself. Wouldn't want some other guy having all the fun looking up her shorts. :p
 
G

golf299

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 1, 2002
Messages
417
Reaction score
1
Location
STL
i just did this exact thing on a first date. it went pretty well, but may have been a little much for a first date with a girl i barely know. but it was fun.

good luck, mate.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

W

WORKEROUTER

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2003
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
9
Location
WA
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Cool, see if you can belay her yourself. Wouldn't want some other guy having all the fun looking up her shorts. :p
Click to expand...
The problem is that I've only climbed a couple times, and I don't know how to belay.

I'll try to take the class before we go, but if not, I guess it's not that much of a big deal.
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
The problem is that I've only climbed a couple times, and I don't know how to belay.

I'll try to take the class before we go, but if not, I guess it's not that much of a big deal.
Click to expand...
Trust me, there is a difference when you are controlling the ropes. If you're into it, learn how to do it. You'll appreciate having the skill. ;)
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Originally posted by School
Not if she is one of those manicured types, with the long nails....... :(
Click to expand...
I don't think that's going to be a problem. Sounds like she was surprised but excited about trying it.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top