"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I called up a girl I met with a couple days ago, and set up a date with her to go rock climbing in a couple days.

I could tell she was very surprised by the idea, but was excited...she hasn't done it before, and she felt a little uneasy. At the same time, she's very curious about it, and I think it will definately make for a good second date.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rock climbing is a good action date. Are you going to at least let her get a little practice on a indoor climbing wall?
 
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Yeah there's a cool indoor gym in the area and I plan on taking her there.

I have only climbed a couple times, so it's just for fun!
 
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Cool, see if you can belay her yourself. Wouldn't want some other guy having all the fun looking up her shorts. :p
 
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i just did this exact thing on a first date. it went pretty well, but may have been a little much for a first date with a girl i barely know. but it was fun.

good luck, mate.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Cool, see if you can belay her yourself. Wouldn't want some other guy having all the fun looking up her shorts. :p
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The problem is that I've only climbed a couple times, and I don't know how to belay.

I'll try to take the class before we go, but if not, I guess it's not that much of a big deal.
 
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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
The problem is that I've only climbed a couple times, and I don't know how to belay.

I'll try to take the class before we go, but if not, I guess it's not that much of a big deal.
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Trust me, there is a difference when you are controlling the ropes. If you're into it, learn how to do it. You'll appreciate having the skill. ;)
 
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Originally posted by School
Not if she is one of those manicured types, with the long nails....... :(
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I don't think that's going to be a problem. Sounds like she was surprised but excited about trying it.
 
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