Dhoulmagus
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Not really a good combination because I dont like interacting with them at all
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
skinnyguy said:This is the problem with most guys around here and why they have problems with women.
They hate women because of how they have been treated by them, but seek out sex at clubs. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The folks who post on here need to stop with the "spinning plates" mentality and realize that they are just setting themselves up for failure and a lifetime of solitude.
If you really WANT to be alone...then by all means go for it. But I think most guys on here don't want to be alone when they are 50.
Hah I find it ironic that youre giving out advice all of a sudden. Do share more of this enlightened new way of thinking since you feel that the principles of this site is so wrongThis is the problem with most guys around here and why they have problems with women.
They hate women because of how they have been treated by them, but seek out sex at clubs. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The folks who post on here need to stop with the "spinning plates" mentality and realize that they are just setting themselves up for failure and a lifetime of solitude.
If you really WANT to be alone...then by all means go for it. But I think most guys on here don't want to be alone when they are 50.
Post of the year !! :crackup:skinnyguy said:This is the problem with most guys around here and why they have problems with women.
They hate women because of how they have been treated by them, but seek out sex at clubs. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The folks who post on here need to stop with the "spinning plates" mentality and realize that they are just setting themselves up for failure and a lifetime of solitude.
If you really WANT to be alone...then by all means go for it. But I think most guys on here don't want to be alone when they are 50.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Men should spin plates. It doesn't matter if you like woman or not. There are lots of sluts who give up p*ssy fast.skinnyguy said:This is the problem with most guys around here and why they have problems with women.
They hate women because of how they have been treated by them, but seek out sex at clubs. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The folks who post on here need to stop with the "spinning plates" mentality and realize that they are just setting themselves up for failure and a lifetime of solitude.
If you really WANT to be alone...then by all means go for it. But I think most guys on here don't want to be alone when they are 50.
Skinny, for someone who loves posting threads on every little meaningless piece of theory you read here, you sure have a hard time understanding what you are reading. I suppose rejecting it provides you with an excuse not to follow any advice that is too much work. Perhaps chewing theory is like candy to you.skinnyguy said:This is the problem with most guys around here and why they have problems with women.
They hate women because of how they have been treated by them, but seek out sex at clubs. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The folks who post on here need to stop with the "spinning plates" mentality and realize that they are just setting themselves up for failure and a lifetime of solitude.
If you really WANT to be alone...then by all means go for it. But I think most guys on here don't want to be alone when they are 50.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well I certainly hope you're translating this new realization into action. You went from constantly asking for advice to dishing it out.As for the poster who talked about me giving advice - I realized that I actually know more than most of the "veteran" posters on here. Think of it as spreading the wealth.
Dude...its "KAAAAMEEEEEHAAAAAMEEEEEEHAAAAA." Don't ever misquote DBZ again"Time to Power up to 9,000 KAAAAAAMEEEEEEHHAAAAAA"
You know next to nothing. If you didn't you wouldn't feel the need to ask... as you'd already KNOW. You form confusing questions as you're a confused person. Life just doesn't seem to be clear to you and you find it hard facing up to reality. It's also like there's some kind of unconscious barrier inside you that prevents you from taking on board "what is". You'd rather believe your own deluded ways than ours even though we all back them up SOLIDLY.skinnyguy said:Well I admit I made a mistake in framing my argument. It's actually dependent on age.
If you're 20 years old and just want to fvck a bunch of slvts then yes, plate spinning could work. Although it doesn't answer the OPs concern.
Since I am in the professional world, this won't work for me. The women I deal with on a regular basis don't get plastered at clubs every weekend. Acting like a douche would be counterproductive.
As for the poster who talked about me giving advice - I realized that I actually know more than most of the "veteran" posters on here. Think of it as spreading the wealth.
If you find the need to constantly attack me over the internet, then you're the one with issues. You're clearly insecure with yourself if you find the need to pick on people who have different views than you.adam225 said:You know next to nothing. If you didn't you wouldn't feel the need to ask... as you'd already KNOW. You form confusing questions as you're a confused person. Life just doesn't seem to be clear to you and you find it hard facing up to reality. It's also like there's some kind of unconscious barrier inside you that prevents you from taking on board "what is". You'd rather believe your own deluded ways than ours even though we all back them up SOLIDLY.
You need to realise that most of us real DJ's are living our lives happily (unlike you). We are complete regardless, as we have the most important thing - OUR SELVES.... So, wouldn't it make sense to at least try your VERY hardest to understand what we're getting at ?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think he knows what is going on, just wants to confuse the new guys and antagonize the Experienced ones because he can.skinnyguy said:This is the problem with most guys around here and why they have problems with women.
They hate women because of how they have been treated by them, but seek out sex at clubs. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The folks who post on here need to stop with the "spinning plates" mentality and realize that they are just setting themselves up for failure and a lifetime of solitude.
If you really WANT to be alone...then by all means go for it. But I think most guys on here don't want to be alone when they are 50.
Didnt misquote half the time Goku doesn't even finish itJoeMarron said:Well I certainly hope you're translating this new realization into action. You went from constantly asking for advice to dishing it out.
Dude...its "KAAAAMEEEEEHAAAAAMEEEEEEHAAAAA." Don't ever misquote DBZ again![]()
Hah ah ok I got you. You're powering up and haven't fired it yet. I take back my earlier comment. Dhoulmagus continue on with your threadSolomon said:Didnt misquote half the time Goku doesn't even finish it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zoBcr8Pz-Yg
1:31
He doesn't even finish it until the 2nd going
heh
I'm not attacking you. I'm just saying "how it is". There's a difference....skinnyguy said:If you find the need to constantly attack me over the internet, then you're the one with issues. You're clearly insecure with yourself if you find the need to pick on people who have different views than you.
You're not a real DJ. Real DJ's would never even find out about this forum cause they don't live on the internet.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.