"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think I am slowly starting to come out of this....

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But the same problems are still there. I watched this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-HBB9CL2TK0&feature=related, and was both inspired and reminded of how much I need to do in life. Somewhat painfully. I have sat around and done nothing, other than some school, cause things did not pan out as I had hoped, and work. Working more than usual. Another year is coming to an end, and I am no where near where I would ideally like to be, and that's either my own unrealistic expectations, or the proper goal setting. Life is the same,day in and day out, to where it feels like I have forgotten out how to enjoy life. I am going to try really hard the next few months to snap out of this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its Elstud!!!!!!
 
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daygameguy said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mo6jUXEpECI&feature=related

^^Be happy. Its the most seductive attractive quality to both men & women.
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That was brilliant man. Watching those clips was really eye opening...kind of hit on something I've been feeling for a bit but never knew how to truly internalize. Seeing him speak put some huge amounts perspective into place for me...thanks for posting
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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