"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think found what I want in a girl + comfort building tips

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I just came back after an ice-cream date with a girl. She is an HB 8 overall and a freshman college student. Unlike other usual college girls, she is amazingly down to earth, smart, funny, playful, and real pretty at the same time.

I am surprised I found a girl like that. Anyway, no one-itis, but I have found the type of girl I would like to have as a long term partner, and good for me, there are a lot of girls of each definable type in this world. So I am not desperate to run after her.

Anyway, here are some comfort building tips from my dating experiences so far:

When you are on a date/in a comfort building situation, always:

1. Try to focus on making the date as enjoyable, fun and playful as possible. The more she feels that "this was a great date!", the more likely she is to see you again. DO NOT FOCUS ON GETTING SOMETHING (sex or whatever)

2. Try to not be needy. You have to be your true self, you can or actually HAVE to show your interest in the girl, and you also have to Kino a lot, BUT DO NOT BE NEEDY.. or AFC BY SAYING STUFF THAT SOUNDS SUPPLICATING/WUSSY LIKE.

3. If possible, find common interests, so that you can build up a second date, preferably before the end of that date itself.


Additional fun things about my date:
I met a few people as we were strolling around, firstly, a guy I know showed up and was taking my advice on something (DHV), secondly, a hot girl I know showed up and started talking to me, as I introduced her to my girl, I could see some pre-selection switches getting turned on in both the girls lol.


The hard truth:
She is really ambitious, studying with full scholarship to be a doctor, and tells me she has never been the dating type.. more like a tom boy, but a pretty tom boy nonetheless. lol Well, her life and career path is pretty important for her, and she is just beginning to step into the big world after school. I guess I'll have to move on.. it sucks to be a grad student. I need to meet some girls of my age (22-23 yr olds).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Most of us who actually read and understood the DJ Bible know your comforiting tips. Good reminder for others and props to you for finding that out yourself.

Sounds like your date knows what she wants in life. Maybe, she has a good head on her shoulders. But, don't build her up to be the girl your looking for just yet!! Her first impression may of been good. But, you will know more after connecting more.
 

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You don't want a girl thats too ambitious. You know, those career-types. Good thing you know that. So many people make this mistake...
 

daygameguy

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Black suit said:
You don't want a girl thats too ambitious. You know, those career-types. Good thing you know that. So many people make this mistake...
Haha yeah.. I agree. When girls try talking about their ambitions a lot, I say C&F stuff like:
1. Wow.. you are throwing a lot of baggage on me here!
2. Well, I guess I could live with that, won't be easy though :)
3. You know what, you dont need to be anything, just follow me around, and I'll double your salary if you smile like that :)

What I actually meant was, I want pretty eyes but also a little down-to-earth tomboy-sih, so I can have fun with her... and not worry about taking her shopping everyday! lol

But again, to each his own.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Most of us who actually read and understood the DJ Bible know your comforiting tips. Good reminder for others and props to you for finding that out yourself.

Sounds like your date knows what she wants in life. Maybe, she has a good head on her shoulders. But, don't build her up to be the girl your looking for just yet!! Her first impression may of been good. But, you will know more after connecting more.
She actually has more guy friends than girl friends. But they are all mostly good guys, who play sports and are adventurous, like herself. Some people link "more guy friends" to "AW". I didnt get that vibe from her. She is just more like a tomboy I guess.

Well anyway, she has her whole life ahead of her, and I am almost out of college. God! Time to move on... next girl plzz lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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