"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I stopped "needing" Women’s approval, but actually started "wanting"

tesla8520

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Hey there!

Since I've started getting some sosuave advice into my reallife, i saw a shift in something.

Just to cite one, but really important, I don't get or show i want to get validation from women anymore..
Also, one also very important, i am not manipulated by them (at least to a certain extent)

So far what I've noticed:
-Many "garbage" women(those who have daddy issues or that show BDP traits), actually avoids me, or at least, they try it (lovebombing, imirroring, etc) anything tohook me, and then,after they see I cannot be manipulated or that I don't need their validation, they do the "discard" part, and actually start attacking me.
So they go from love to hate. This is how I started to filter good women who actually show perpetual interest..

It's kinda different, you know..
Think it about 2 type of friends, one show off quickly, while the other is a bit "scary" at thebeginning, so kinda like takes time to build.

For us men, it's really hard to understand wheter a woman it's really interested (because at the beginning any woman will actually give you sings she's interested), but once you invite her, watch carefully what she does the next 1 month. If "tempo" is too quick, be careful that **** may be bad.

Thanks sosuave.. keep learning
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Congrats, you've passed level 1.

But, what you will likely find is it's much harder to have this happen in the moment when you are put in situations with women.

It's easy to do when you have plenty of time to think and respond...not so easy to override decades of behavior and habits that are ingrained in your brain and are part of who you are.

That will take a lot more work. Years and years of work and repeatedly doing things that feel very uncomfortable for you in the beginning, but will end up becoming a habit eventually that will have transition to form new habits.

Don't think you've reached the end. It's just the beginning and it take constant focus to not backslide.

Keep going! You can make it permanent by building the proper habits one day at a time, and more importantly, giving your mind time to accept this is who you actually are, and not the person it still believes you are.
 
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BillyPilgrim

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OP learn to identify these garbage women off the bat and what used to take you one month will take you one second. This is going to be a drag, but you need to mentally remember what they looked like, acted, their body language, energy, etc so you can discard them at first glance and not after a series of headaches.
 
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