"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I stopped "needing" Women’s approval, but actually started "wanting"

tesla8520

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Hey there!

Since I've started getting some sosuave advice into my reallife, i saw a shift in something.

Just to cite one, but really important, I don't get or show i want to get validation from women anymore..
Also, one also very important, i am not manipulated by them (at least to a certain extent)

So far what I've noticed:
-Many "garbage" women(those who have daddy issues or that show BDP traits), actually avoids me, or at least, they try it (lovebombing, imirroring, etc) anything tohook me, and then,after they see I cannot be manipulated or that I don't need their validation, they do the "discard" part, and actually start attacking me.
So they go from love to hate. This is how I started to filter good women who actually show perpetual interest..

It's kinda different, you know..
Think it about 2 type of friends, one show off quickly, while the other is a bit "scary" at thebeginning, so kinda like takes time to build.

For us men, it's really hard to understand wheter a woman it's really interested (because at the beginning any woman will actually give you sings she's interested), but once you invite her, watch carefully what she does the next 1 month. If "tempo" is too quick, be careful that **** may be bad.

Thanks sosuave.. keep learning
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BackInTheGame78

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Congrats, you've passed level 1.

But, what you will likely find is it's much harder to have this happen in the moment when you are put in situations with women.

It's easy to do when you have plenty of time to think and respond...not so easy to override decades of behavior and habits that are ingrained in your brain and are part of who you are.

That will take a lot more work. Years and years of work and repeatedly doing things that feel very uncomfortable for you in the beginning, but will end up becoming a habit eventually that will have transition to form new habits.

Don't think you've reached the end. It's just the beginning and it take constant focus to not backslide.

Keep going! You can make it permanent by building the proper habits one day at a time, and more importantly, giving your mind time to accept this is who you actually are, and not the person it still believes you are.
 
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BillyPilgrim

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OP learn to identify these garbage women off the bat and what used to take you one month will take you one second. This is going to be a drag, but you need to mentally remember what they looked like, acted, their body language, energy, etc so you can discard them at first glance and not after a series of headaches.
 
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