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I still struggle with the abundance mindset

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Yea I've had conversations like this... Example...

I matched with an Asian real estate agent on Bumble. Similar in looks rating to what you posted...

Immediately asked her to just come over to fvck. She said yes if it's RIGHT NOW because she has a fantasy football draft in a few hours. I was working so I said in that case it will have to wait until tomorrow. She says she can't tomorrow....

I decide to message her about 2 weeks later and she says she'll come over. Then later cancels because her babysitter cancelled on her.

To me, it's not worth all these headaches just to get a nut off. Not when there's ways to do it without this uncertainty.
Why did you ask the real estate agent to come over to f*ck if you were at work?
 

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I meant that night after I was off. I work for myself so technically I can "get off" whenever I want. But I felt like finishing what I was doing.
Ah, well yeah I've missed a few opportunities too. A few weeks ago it seems every night as I was getting into bed a girl wanted to hook up off pof. I was too tired and tried to get a rain check but they were just looking for that night apparently. Nothing I could do about it so it doesn't matter.
 

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To me, it's not worth all these headaches just to get a nut off. Not when there's ways to do it without this uncertainty.
It sounds to me like you have no interest in seduction. Just purely transactional sex... Which begs the question why are you on this site? The name of this site isn't sotransactional.
 

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It sounds to me like you have no interest in seduction. Just purely transactional sex... Which begs the question why are you on this site? The name of this site isn't sotransactional.
Idk. To see how things are done by other people, I guess. To see if there's anything I'm missing by just doing transactional. I spend probably $40k/year on sex so if there's a better way to do it, I'm all ears. It's hard to know which posts on this forum are legit vs. false male ego bragging.
 

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Idk. To see how things are done by other people, I guess. To see if there's anything I'm missing by just doing transactional. I spend probably $40k/year on sex so if there's a better way to do it, I'm all ears. It's hard to know which posts on this forum are legit vs. false male ego bragging.
Dude 40k a year? With that money you could afford HOT hookers. Why not go that route? If you looking for free sex, it's gonna be more chaotic. Maybe that's not for you
 

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Dude 40k a year? With that money you could afford HOT hookers. Why not go that route? If you looking for free sex, it's gonna be more chaotic. Maybe that's not for you
I do get hot hookers. That's the only kind I get. Often for very cheap if I'm traveling.
 

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Yeah if you can burn that much, might as well stick to hookers. Seeing that time is money, and you don't want to invest that much time to improve seduction skills it makes the most sense for you to do transactional.
 

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Yeah if you can burn that much, might as well stick to hookers. Seeing that time is money, and you don't want to invest that much time to improve seduction skills it makes the most sense for you to do transactional.
Are seduction skills really a thing? I hate to just seem like I'm running or quitting.
 

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Abundance mindset in 2021 is unjustified. Abundance mindset was for pre-2015 when you could easily have a harem of abundance if you just did your cold approaches a couple times a week. Today, we need settling mindset.
 

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This is tempting me to break nofap on escorts.
Man, would you knock it off with the constant fap talk. You over played your hand on it. We get it... You have a serious problem with self control... The thing is since you overplayed it, no one cares....
 

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Man, would you knock it off with the constant fap talk. You over played your hand on it. We get it... You have a serious problem with self control... The thing is since you overplayed it, no one cares....
No problem. Ignoring you too.
 

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OP I salute your honesty. The "abundance mindset" that often gets touted by guys in the manosphere is actually nothing more than a glorified "fake it till you make it" mentality - it's a fallacy.

There's no way to feign an abundance mindset and make women believe it. Women are intuitive creatures, they can spot a guy that's faking an "abundance mindset" easily. There's no way to hide thirst if you're thirsty.
I have had no options they still believe I have dozens bc my game is good enough to get dozens. The mindset does make a difference. That doesn't mean that false pride from that mindset has no downside...it does.
 
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