Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I seek the Grail

Alpine

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I'm tired and weary. After a thousand posts answering stupid teenager angst type questions, I seek refuge here.

But is my search in vain? :(
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Slickster

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The "Grail" isn't here on this board either. You won't find it anywhere on this Forum. Not even the DJ Bible.

The "Grail" is out there in the real world. Consider this place a "map" giving directions to the Grail. You have to do the work to get there.

Have you tried the BootCamp?
 

Alpine

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No, seriously, I just want somewhere to get away from the silly stuff and have a sensible thread going somewhere.

But thanks for your concern.

:D
 

Donald Kaufman

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Perhaps we should get reduce the use of the ":p " in here.

I think it leads to immaturity.

I occasionally look around in the high school forum. It makes me glad not to be doing that anymore.

Was it your birthday recently Alpine? Were you born in '80? Happy birthday. :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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