"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I seduced the girl I was obsessed with
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Desdinova
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Girl I had a crush on in high school. Too chicken 5hit to ask her out. 7 years later I was exploring her insides.
Girl who dumped my ass and drove me to this site 13 years ago. She was heavily pursuing me last year.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
sylvester the cat
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Deadly_Ripped
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Then your punchline hit me and I actually laughed out loud. SO TRUE! Any time I've become obsessed with a girl (only happened 2 times in my life), I've failed miserably as continuing a relationship with her.
LondonTowers
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I once got obsessed with a girl and got no where. Cut her off pursued other women and year later she got back to me. I didn't give a sh!t this time and guess what. Yep I got her.
Then as the relationship developed, I turned AFC and she broke up with me. That hurt but I bounced back and got my **** together and pursued other women and stop giving sh1t about her. She then wanted me again. Banged her and tossed her to the curb. She got p!ssed and got into a relationship with another guy. That for some reason hurt me and I turned AFC again.
That experience led me to the journey of true inner game development, the path I am currently walking.
This girl showed me how obsession NEVER get's the girl.. but also how you can weirdly bounce from AFC to ALPHA to AFC to ALPHA even with the same girl. You can go from obsession to indifference to obsession to indifference with the same girl.
It's all inner game.. until you get it rock solid, you are prone to bounce from state to state depending on external influences. You can become a sort of faux alpha. To become the real deal takes incredible inner work and the number of girls you've notched isn't actually an indication of this.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Suspens
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And then you start thinking the grass is greener on the other side, I can do better.
:rockon: now dont bust in three seconds lol. you mean you seduced a woman you like or were you truly obsessed. funny thing about english language sometimes a little change in wording change the meaning. because if you truly obsessed you would show obsessed and needy behavior which made you unattractive so im assuming you just like her and got her good for you.:rockon:r0cky said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
But no, I tried hard in my AFC beta say to get her way back then and failed miserably. But thankyou So Suave for helping me find my ballz.
TheGambino
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lolsylvester the cat said:
Uncharted
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A few months into our relationship she said "I was thinking about you all the time when I didn't see you around" and "When you got a new girlfriend I was thinking 'uh oh new girl is taking my guy'".
Key is to just not care anymore about getting with her - keep busy and get with other girls. If you end up hooking up in the future, that's great. If not, oh well.
I didn't bother with that whole "go talk to other girls" stuff. I just asked if she wanted to grab a drink.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.