I seduced the girl I was obsessed with

[r0cky]

Said nobody ever. Yet this is the hope 99% of people here.
:nono:

Time to stop the mental masturbation.

 

[Desdinova]

WTF???

It can be done. I've done it twice. The only thing is you need to have YEARS of no contact in order to pull it off.

 

[r0cky]

WTF???

It can be done. I've done it twice. The only thing is you need to have YEARS of no contact in order to pull it off.

Please tell me you are being sarcastic.

 

[Desdinova]

Why would I be sarcastic about something like that?

Girl I had a crush on in high school. Too chicken 5hit to ask her out. 7 years later I was exploring her insides.

Girl who dumped my ass and drove me to this site 13 years ago. She was heavily pursuing me last year.

 

[r0cky]

That means you were not obsessed about them anymore since so many years had passed, and my point still stands. You were not able to get with them WHILE you were obsessed.

 

[jimmy18]

If you are obsessed about 1 particular girl, then you aren't 100% happy with yourself and your life, and the girl will be able to sense this, which is why she won't have sex with you.

 

[Desdinova]

Perhaps your thread title should say "I seduced the girl I am obsessed with"

 

[sylvester the cat]

Never mind

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

r0cky when I saw the title of your post I was thinking in my head, "no way!" so I had to open it up and see this story. I've certainly never known anyone to "get" the object of their obsession.

Then your punchline hit me and I actually laughed out loud. SO TRUE! Any time I've become obsessed with a girl (only happened 2 times in my life), I've failed miserably as continuing a relationship with her.

 

[LondonTowers]

Lol.

I once got obsessed with a girl and got no where. Cut her off pursued other women and year later she got back to me. I didn't give a sh!t this time and guess what. Yep I got her.

Then as the relationship developed, I turned AFC and she broke up with me. That hurt but I bounced back and got my **** together and pursued other women and stop giving sh1t about her. She then wanted me again. Banged her and tossed her to the curb. She got p!ssed and got into a relationship with another guy. That for some reason hurt me and I turned AFC again.

That experience led me to the journey of true inner game development, the path I am currently walking.

This girl showed me how obsession NEVER get's the girl.. but also how you can weirdly bounce from AFC to ALPHA to AFC to ALPHA even with the same girl. You can go from obsession to indifference to obsession to indifference with the same girl.

It's all inner game.. until you get it rock solid, you are prone to bounce from state to state depending on external influences. You can become a sort of faux alpha. To become the real deal takes incredible inner work and the number of girls you've notched isn't actually an indication of this.

 

[Anargyros]

I've missed the joke. Can anyone explain it to me?
Seriously

 

[r0cky]

I've missed the joke. Can anyone explain it to me?
Seriously

If you're obsessing over a girl will never get her.

 

[Suspens]

But after pumping the subject multiple times, then you'll realize it was stupid to think she was the one, she was the hottest girl in the world etc.

And then you start thinking the grass is greener on the other side, I can do better.

 

[crazyboy]

Said nobody ever. Yet this is the hope 99% of people here.
:nono:

Time to stop the mental masturbation.

:rockon: now dont bust in three seconds lol. you mean you seduced a woman you like or were you truly obsessed. funny thing about english language sometimes a little change in wording change the meaning. because if you truly obsessed you would show obsessed and needy behavior which made you unattractive so im assuming you just like her and got her good for you.:rockon:

 

[Jack89]

Londontowers thanks for sharing your story, I don't know why it's not in the alive and tips forum.

 

[Zarky]

Said nobody ever.

haha! I was going to say "Wow you're the first guy in history!" Nice one OP, fooled me.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Des is right. I was obsessed with a chick I worked with and 20 years later, we're in a relationship.
But no, I tried hard in my AFC beta say to get her way back then and failed miserably. But thankyou So Suave for helping me find my ballz.

 

[TheGambino]

Never mind

lol

 

[Uncharted]

Lies. About 7-8 years ago I did just this. She rejected me, I was kinda depressed for a month, but I cut all contact and started dating another girl. This was before I knew anything about game. We ran into each other at a party a few months later (I was still dating girl 2 but not BF/GF) and we ended up hooking up a few days later - and then dating for a year.

A few months into our relationship she said "I was thinking about you all the time when I didn't see you around" and "When you got a new girlfriend I was thinking 'uh oh new girl is taking my guy'".

Key is to just not care anymore about getting with her - keep busy and get with other girls. If you end up hooking up in the future, that's great. If not, oh well.

 

[handle]

Nah. I did it. I was tired of being obsessed so I figured I had to take a crack at it. Turned out she was even more into me than I was into her. Worked out pretty good.

I didn't bother with that whole "go talk to other girls" stuff. I just asked if she wanted to grab a drink.