"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i ruined my nofap, i ruined my coldshowers, i ruined my diet

sosousage

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I ruined my life


my parents infected me

so i ruined my cold shower streak, then my diet streak, then my nofap streak

and now feeling ill and destroyed
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I ruined my life


my parents infected me

so i ruined my cold shower streak, then my diet streak, then my nofap streak

and now feeling ill and destroyed
I normally just write strike one, etc...

Give yourself three strikes and confine it to an interval. So, you have 3 strikes every 30 days, if you have more than 3 strikes than you are out. Don't allow a third strike in a month if you strike out twice in a given week.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GoalOriented

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I ruined my life


my parents infected me

so i ruined my cold shower streak, then my diet streak, then my nofap streak

and now feeling ill and destroyed
You need to unload some of of that stress. Have you thought of fating older women? Mid to late 40's, 50's and above? You'd def. be able to get you d@ck wet. You may even be able to get our own resident old hag to ride you.
 

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Don't blame others for your conceived failure. Take ownership.

You ruined those things and used your parents behavior as a scapegoat. You were weak. Now you need to decide if you are okay with that and either figure out how to move on or adjust.

Here's some advice. I would try to stay away from such extreme regimens. Why not challenge yourself to only jerk off once every other day for 2 weeks. Then once every 3 days for a month. Etc, to the point where it's only twice a week. Or use an 80/20 rule with your dieting so that you can eat things you enjoy without feeling so down about it when you deviate from dietary robot mode. Cold showers... All good things must come to an end. I used to do them. They made me alert. But eventually man.. I just want to enjoy my shower.

Moderation is key. It allows imperfection but is sustainable. Sustainability leads to consistency. And consistency is what gets you to your end goal.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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