"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i ruined my nofap, i ruined my coldshowers, i ruined my diet

sosousage

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I ruined my life


my parents infected me

so i ruined my cold shower streak, then my diet streak, then my nofap streak

and now feeling ill and destroyed
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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corrector

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I ruined my life


my parents infected me

so i ruined my cold shower streak, then my diet streak, then my nofap streak

and now feeling ill and destroyed
I normally just write strike one, etc...

Give yourself three strikes and confine it to an interval. So, you have 3 strikes every 30 days, if you have more than 3 strikes than you are out. Don't allow a third strike in a month if you strike out twice in a given week.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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GoalOriented

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I ruined my life


my parents infected me

so i ruined my cold shower streak, then my diet streak, then my nofap streak

and now feeling ill and destroyed
You need to unload some of of that stress. Have you thought of fating older women? Mid to late 40's, 50's and above? You'd def. be able to get you d@ck wet. You may even be able to get our own resident old hag to ride you.
 

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Don't blame others for your conceived failure. Take ownership.

You ruined those things and used your parents behavior as a scapegoat. You were weak. Now you need to decide if you are okay with that and either figure out how to move on or adjust.

Here's some advice. I would try to stay away from such extreme regimens. Why not challenge yourself to only jerk off once every other day for 2 weeks. Then once every 3 days for a month. Etc, to the point where it's only twice a week. Or use an 80/20 rule with your dieting so that you can eat things you enjoy without feeling so down about it when you deviate from dietary robot mode. Cold showers... All good things must come to an end. I used to do them. They made me alert. But eventually man.. I just want to enjoy my shower.

Moderation is key. It allows imperfection but is sustainable. Sustainability leads to consistency. And consistency is what gets you to your end goal.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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