"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i put this to you: you are not as good looking as you think

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rite, i'm sick of hearing guys say, i'm good looking this, people call me good-looking that

based on pure speculation, i reckon 50% of the guys hear are sub-par otherwise they wouldn't be here

i want to see pictures!

so all those who think they've got it

please post pictures, or links here.


me:

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GZRLHQN&key=ENL

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GZRLHQS&key=WUP

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=ERSQRLN&key=BBE



please no flaming about hotornot, don't know how to post pictures on these forums


my scale:
10 - very HOT
9 - hot
8 - very attractive
7 - pretty/attractive
6 - average/meh
<5 ugly, fugly, butgly
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hot or Not is useless, the girls are rating the guys more on the personality that they are portraying in the photos, not on their actual physical appearance.
The same guy can put on a photo of himself dressed in more conservative or bleak types of clothing and be scored a 4, then put on another photo that shows his muscles without a shirt on and be scored an 8.
The girls are rating the personality portrayed rather than his actual looks.:cool:
 

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lordson said:
based on pure speculation, i reckon 50% of the guys hear [sic] are sub-par
I agree entirely.

Furthermore, I propose that exactly 50% of guys here are above par.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i think im like a 6.5...
 
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oh, and I give myself a 6.75-7.25 depending on the day.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hotornot is the worst measure of looks. People don't always rate solely on good looks, guys will rate other guys 1s just for the hell of it, tons of people just keep hitting one score over and over to browse thru the pictures....etc etc. It's bs.
 

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I'm even better looking than I think I am.





Most people in this thread seem quite hot, in my not gay opinion.
 
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What's the point of this? To slash egos? Who cares if someone wants to believe they're better looking than they are. It's their right to do so. I mean what's the alternative? "gee I'm not good enough guess I don't get to feel attractive "
 

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lordson said:
rite, i'm sick of hearing guys say, i'm good looking this, people call me good-looking that

based on pure speculation, i reckon 50% of the guys hear are sub-par otherwise they wouldn't be here

i want to see pictures!

so all those who think they've got it

please post pictures, or links here.


me:

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GZRLHQN&key=ENL

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GZRLHQS&key=WUP

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=ERSQRLN&key=BBE



please no flaming about hotornot, don't know how to post pictures on these forums


my scale:
10 - very HOT
9 - hot
8 - very attractive
7 - pretty/attractive
6 - average/meh
<5 ugly, fugly, butgly
You.... my good sir, are a fool.

There are tons of reasons why guys would be on this site, if you're here only to obsess over women you're here for the wrong reasons! So stop with all your gay little predictions and crap. "I bet 50% of you blah blah blah..." Tell me what mathematical process you used to get to that conclusion :rolleyes: . Fyi, I fluctuate between 8.5-9.0 on that site.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PlasticSurgeon said:
Click on my myspace for my pictures...

I'm hands down, the best looking guy of my race. I don't even look Indian.
I'm glad you hold your people to such high standards, b/c basically you said:

"compared to a white guy I aint sh*t but I'm hotter than those Indians, and that's only because I don't look Indian."

Give yourself a pat on the back buddy. :)
 

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Good job diversifying, I'm the same way, but keep in mind if you're excluding your own, you're not diversifying.
Btw, where in LI are you? I'm in Stony Brook U.
 

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Nighthawk said:
I'm even better looking than I think I am.
Hey, you know that PM I sent you asking how to be "sexy"? Well I think I get it now. I was at the bookstore this morning looking at some magazines, and Scarlett Johannson is on the cover of some magazine as "sexiest woman alive." I look at her, then at some other fine chick on another cover, like FHM or something. And you know, Scarlett doesn't have the best body, she's a little "thick" but the way she poses just oozes with sexuality. Even though the other chick has a nicer body, more toned, Scarlett turns me on more, because her stance just plain screams SEX!

So, I get it now...sexy isn't flexing or being big and toned, it's the way you carry yourself...and being confident enough to have a bold sense of style, like you do.

And you know, from your pictures, I think I'm similar to you in that I'm a pretty thin guy. What I think attracts girls is my face/jaw, eyes, and sense of style (though my style needs work). You're not big and muscular, yet you say girls think you're sexy. You do have very "manly" facial features though...and the way you stand is just "sexy." I totally get your drift now...

I won't post my pictures because I don't want people knowing I visit this forum (as I've posted about my self-esteem/confidence issues a lot). I don't really care for ratings since hot girls come onto on me daily, I have all the proof I need. Besides, this guy is right...we all have the right to believe we're super good-looking...in fact, my low self-esteem as I've realized is my biggest obstacle.

Yankee.Hotel.Foxtrot said:
What's the point of this? To slash egos? Who cares if someone wants to believe they're better looking than they are. It's their right to do so. I mean what's the alternative? "gee I'm not good enough guess I don't get to feel attractive "
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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