evolvingnerd
Senior Don Juan
but
now how do i ask her out to study sometime?
now how do i ask her out to study sometime?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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- Thread starter evolvingnerd
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dapper Swindler
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Good work!
Are you sure it is best to ask her to study? Tell us the situation of who this person is and everything.
Are you sure it is best to ask her to study? Tell us the situation of who this person is and everything.
evolvingnerd
Senior Don Juan
i chatted this girl up specifically with the intent of finding a study buddy, and of course practice 
i've seen her quite a bit, always on her own, but very smart
i've seen her quite a bit, always on her own, but very smart
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Wouldn't it have been easier to say something like "Why don't we get together and study sometime, what's your telephone number?"
I don't get it why so many DJs think that getting the telephone number is the goal. IT'S JUST A NUMBER! You want to see the woman again right? Why not focus on that and if you get her number too, even better.
I don't get it why so many DJs think that getting the telephone number is the goal. IT'S JUST A NUMBER! You want to see the woman again right? Why not focus on that and if you get her number too, even better.
I think seeing the number as the goal is more of a short term goal, a stepping stone. Your first goal is to get that number. Next goal, go on a date with her, and so on. It just depends how you break it down. You might look at the big picture, where others see it in steps.
evolvingnerd - I hope you aren't just stringing this girl along as some kind of "practice" for you. Don't waste her time if you are only doing this to inflate your ego. Persue girls you are actually interested in.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Heart Of Stone
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ummm.............Is this a trick question?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Stepping stone? The only way that will work is if you know how to step off of it. It doesn't do much good if the stone is in a pool of lava.
E-nerd, consider being more direct and thinking BIGGER. Half stepping like that will allow a DJ with more skills to come in and blindside you. Think about it, why should she wait around for you to think up how to call and ask her out when another DJ just asks her out?
Be bold, don't follow the norm and you'll see greater success in less time.
E-nerd, consider being more direct and thinking BIGGER. Half stepping like that will allow a DJ with more skills to come in and blindside you. Think about it, why should she wait around for you to think up how to call and ask her out when another DJ just asks her out?
Be bold, don't follow the norm and you'll see greater success in less time.