PuertoRican_Lover
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Tell this hor to put up or shut up!!! Enough with the sexualy frustrated verbal sparring match!!! Be a man and do and get what you want!!!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i never thought i'd ask for advice here
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Don Juan
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Okay, I called her. She called back the next day (*****). I'm guess she's either playing games or is busy. Well, I guess I'm either playing games or busy then. I didn't pick up because I was sleeping.
So I am holding out for tomorrow to call back. If she wants a delay between calls, I'm going to give her a delay also. Maybe I'm a spiteful *******. This is my life, though.
The message:
"Hey, Kevin, it's J, just calling you back. Sorry I didn't call you back...the day you called. But um, is everything okay? You sounded a little upset. Not sure if that was the case, though, but if you just needed to talk or anything like...that, you know I'm always here for you. Just call me back...when...you get this. Or just...just let me know what's up. <can't hear this part of the message>...drunk. Call me back when you get this. Bye."
Lots of stuttering, some nervous laughter. She is a ****ing weird girl. Or maybe she has a thing for me? Or maybe she's confused why I'd be upset. *I'm* quite confused. I'm making mistakes left and right, and I can't imagine how I'm keeping this **** going. What the **** is going on?
I'm gonna call her back today after I wake up at around 6pm. That'll be roughly 27 hours since she left her message.
Don't bash the stupid things I've done here too hard. I don't need it.
More advice, please. Third party analysis of the situation would be helpful.
So I am holding out for tomorrow to call back. If she wants a delay between calls, I'm going to give her a delay also. Maybe I'm a spiteful *******. This is my life, though.
The message:
"Hey, Kevin, it's J, just calling you back. Sorry I didn't call you back...the day you called. But um, is everything okay? You sounded a little upset. Not sure if that was the case, though, but if you just needed to talk or anything like...that, you know I'm always here for you. Just call me back...when...you get this. Or just...just let me know what's up. <can't hear this part of the message>...drunk. Call me back when you get this. Bye."
Lots of stuttering, some nervous laughter. She is a ****ing weird girl. Or maybe she has a thing for me? Or maybe she's confused why I'd be upset. *I'm* quite confused. I'm making mistakes left and right, and I can't imagine how I'm keeping this **** going. What the **** is going on?
I'm gonna call her back today after I wake up at around 6pm. That'll be roughly 27 hours since she left her message.
Don't bash the stupid things I've done here too hard. I don't need it.
More advice, please. Third party analysis of the situation would be helpful.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Too close to this to think straight
Wow -- what a weird-ass story.
You're too close to the situation to think straight. You're right to ask for third-party advice.
Sheeit, this gal's really into you.
Give her a call as you plan, and keep it playful and fun. Don't botch things up by getting too mushy on her, but don't be afraid to be a bit human, either if the flow dictates it. And don't be out-and-out mean, either. You're glad to get in touch with her, and ready to jump right back in an enjoy giving each other a bit of ****, right? Not to be too Zen about it, but go with the flow.
Then when you get together, just make your move, already, when the vibe is up.
And do keep sober enough to be thinking straight.
Wow -- what a weird-ass story.
You're too close to the situation to think straight. You're right to ask for third-party advice.
Sheeit, this gal's really into you.
Give her a call as you plan, and keep it playful and fun. Don't botch things up by getting too mushy on her, but don't be afraid to be a bit human, either if the flow dictates it. And don't be out-and-out mean, either. You're glad to get in touch with her, and ready to jump right back in an enjoy giving each other a bit of ****, right? Not to be too Zen about it, but go with the flow.
Then when you get together, just make your move, already, when the vibe is up.
And do keep sober enough to be thinking straight.
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Don Juan
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My God, my phone died while talking to her on the phone after doing like 5 phonetags. This is getting ridiculous.
Too much effort
By the way... you are putting SO MUCH effort into this chick, and u are getting so worked about her, i think u should stop for a second, realise that u are outting all this effort, and realise that there are PLENTY of other chicks that u can direct your effort to, and when this girl gets back, THEN u can direct your effort back to her, i think that what u need to do now is just give her a short phonecall saying " Hey, listen, these phones are giving me sh!t and its just too much of a problem to speak like this, so when u get back we must catch up, or get togeather" or watever, u get my drift? In the meantime, lok around, and find urslf some other girls.
Laterz...
Looks like u are having more trouble with the phones than with her! Why dont you just but a phonecard or something and phone her from a payphone? Those always seem to "have goo reception" and they dont run on batteries
By the way... you are putting SO MUCH effort into this chick, and u are getting so worked about her, i think u should stop for a second, realise that u are outting all this effort, and realise that there are PLENTY of other chicks that u can direct your effort to, and when this girl gets back, THEN u can direct your effort back to her, i think that what u need to do now is just give her a short phonecall saying " Hey, listen, these phones are giving me sh!t and its just too much of a problem to speak like this, so when u get back we must catch up, or get togeather" or watever, u get my drift? In the meantime, lok around, and find urslf some other girls.
Laterz...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Don Juan
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That's what I'm gonna do. I'm done with this unless she calls back.