"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I need that killer instinct

Alittude

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Hey guys I just got my wisdom teeth out a couple days ago so I have about a week to gather up all the information I can and then get out on the field and give it a go.

I think one of my main problems when I'm going to parties and such is that I don't close as much as I should. I look back and not only do I have heaps of chances but I miss blatant opportunities and it just hurts that I didn't close some of these girls that were bascially begging for it.

I really don't know what my problem is but I just don't get the feeling to just go for it and I really am lacking that killer instinct. So if anyone has advice on what to do and how I can learn to get a habbit of just going for the close then I would love to hear it thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alittude

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Haha dude I've tried that I went 30 days without it but it didn't help so I don't know I guess that's not it.
 

wjh

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It's a girl. You don't need a killer instinct to touch/kiss or number close her.

If you've built rapport and she's attracted, she wants you to ask. Obviously you not asking is rooted in your fear.

Do you fear your inexperience? Do you fear not knowing what to do next?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ready123

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Experience is the only way you get that killer instinct. By experience i mean failures as well as successes - getting rejected and blown out and feeling stupid as well as getting jocked and feeling like you're the man.

Every skill, from playing a sport to speaking in public, follows this pattern. You always suck at the beginning and look dumb, but doing it over and over lets you get comfortable and internalize the things that work for you. Mackin on women is no different.
 
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