I've fallen for my bestfriend, and boy did I fall hard. The only thing is she has a boy friend. I don't want to tell her anything while they are together. She says she is in love with him but I can't stand him!!! When will they break up?? They've been going out for close to 7 or 8 months. I don't know how much longer I can do this........
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I need some serious help!! (girl problem)
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DubstepGuy
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My advice would be to try and forget you even had feelings for her until she's single. because if you get upset or depressed when you think of her like i did with a girl, it makes the whole thing worse :/
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You're making yourself unhappy. Forget about her completely.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Do you have a vagina?Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Man up and get some other b1tches.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You can leave now. You don't want to be helped.Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
DanZy
Master Don Juan
It really is that easy, you're just being a little *****. You ask for help but then complain about the aid you're given, you already know what answer you want.Docwhite said:I wish it was as easy as you guys are saying it is...... But it's not. Thanks for trying to help though
Forget her and go after some other girls! The longer you wait, the worse it'll become. Just remember that just like there's always a bigger fish in the sea, there's always a better girl. And hey, you'd better start getting experienced before you meet her. By talking to other girls you'll feel a lot better soon enough.
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.