I've fallen for my bestfriend, and boy did I fall hard. The only thing is she has a boy friend. I don't want to tell her anything while they are together. She says she is in love with him but I can't stand him!!! When will they break up?? They've been going out for close to 7 or 8 months. I don't know how much longer I can do this........
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I need some serious help!! (girl problem)
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DubstepGuy
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My advice would be to try and forget you even had feelings for her until she's single. because if you get upset or depressed when you think of her like i did with a girl, it makes the whole thing worse :/
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You're making yourself unhappy. Forget about her completely.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Do you have a vagina?Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Man up and get some other b1tches.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You can leave now. You don't want to be helped.Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
DanZy
Master Don Juan
It really is that easy, you're just being a little *****. You ask for help but then complain about the aid you're given, you already know what answer you want.Docwhite said:I wish it was as easy as you guys are saying it is...... But it's not. Thanks for trying to help though
Forget her and go after some other girls! The longer you wait, the worse it'll become. Just remember that just like there's always a bigger fish in the sea, there's always a better girl. And hey, you'd better start getting experienced before you meet her. By talking to other girls you'll feel a lot better soon enough.
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.