I've fallen for my bestfriend, and boy did I fall hard. The only thing is she has a boy friend. I don't want to tell her anything while they are together. She says she is in love with him but I can't stand him!!! When will they break up?? They've been going out for close to 7 or 8 months. I don't know how much longer I can do this........
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I need some serious help!! (girl problem)
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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My advice would be to try and forget you even had feelings for her until she's single. because if you get upset or depressed when you think of her like i did with a girl, it makes the whole thing worse :/
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You're making yourself unhappy. Forget about her completely.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Do you have a vagina?Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Man up and get some other b1tches.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You can leave now. You don't want to be helped.Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
DanZy
Master Don Juan
It really is that easy, you're just being a little *****. You ask for help but then complain about the aid you're given, you already know what answer you want.Docwhite said:I wish it was as easy as you guys are saying it is...... But it's not. Thanks for trying to help though
Forget her and go after some other girls! The longer you wait, the worse it'll become. Just remember that just like there's always a bigger fish in the sea, there's always a better girl. And hey, you'd better start getting experienced before you meet her. By talking to other girls you'll feel a lot better soon enough.
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.