I've fallen for my bestfriend, and boy did I fall hard. The only thing is she has a boy friend. I don't want to tell her anything while they are together. She says she is in love with him but I can't stand him!!! When will they break up?? They've been going out for close to 7 or 8 months. I don't know how much longer I can do this........
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I need some serious help!! (girl problem)
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DubstepGuy
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My advice would be to try and forget you even had feelings for her until she's single. because if you get upset or depressed when you think of her like i did with a girl, it makes the whole thing worse :/
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You're making yourself unhappy. Forget about her completely.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
She's happy, her boyfriend's happy, you're unhappy. Don't spread your unhappiness, just get rid of it and find people that want to be happy with you.
I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Do you have a vagina?Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
Man up and get some other b1tches.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You can leave now. You don't want to be helped.Docwhite said:I can't just give up. I love her and I know this relationship will go nowhere. I wish I could just turn my feelings off but I just can't. We are sophomores, do you think they will break up anytime soon? They never seem to fight, but they haven't been together over a full summer yet
DanZy
Master Don Juan
It really is that easy, you're just being a little *****. You ask for help but then complain about the aid you're given, you already know what answer you want.Docwhite said:I wish it was as easy as you guys are saying it is...... But it's not. Thanks for trying to help though
Forget her and go after some other girls! The longer you wait, the worse it'll become. Just remember that just like there's always a bigger fish in the sea, there's always a better girl. And hey, you'd better start getting experienced before you meet her. By talking to other girls you'll feel a lot better soon enough.
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
AND, if you build a nice social circle now and become a better person then you'll have more chance of getting her when she finally breaks up with her boyfriend!
I'm new here, by the way!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.