Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I need some advice on what to do here......

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I was involved with a woman four months ago that I shouldn't have been involved with. She has not contacted me, but everyday, at least two to three times a day for over four months, she checks my social networking site. Any idea what I should put on there? Till this day, I have been messing around and cracking jokes or putting my picture up with other girls, but still my profile says single (I have never directly addressed her). Any ideas on what to put on there that could blow her mind? My feelings were a little hurt on this one and I liked the girl alot, though I should have never been with her. I know for SURE that it's her. 100 percent. So why is she still checking? What should I put on there? Any advice? I find it weird and odd.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Trent, just be the fun loving carefree sexy guy you know you are (i assume lol). If she makes contact, appear cool & semi-disinterested. It's like trolling... wait for a bite on your rod before yanking. bide your time, meanwhile spin plates & let her see you have social proof-value by being surrounded by HB's. Patience my friend.

Oh... and if you want to try to induce her to "bite", addude to having a bit of a crush on a secret past romantic interest. She will be studying every word. In other words... like chumming the waters as you troll! LOL
 

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Joe Stud said:
Trent, just be the fun loving carefree sexy guy you know you are (i assume lol). If she makes contact, appear cool & semi-disinterested. It's like trolling... wait for a bite on your rod before yanking. bide your time, meanwhile spin plates & let her see you have social proof-value by being surrounded by HB's. Patience my friend.

Oh... and if you want to try to induce her to "bite", addude to having a bit of a crush on a secret past romantic interest. She will be studying every word. In other words... like chumming the waters as you troll! LOL
Hey Joe,

She hasn't bit in four months. I wonder if it's over. I mean, she is gone and just checks and checks. What the hell is she looking for? I will do as you say. Let's see what happens.
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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the problem here is you have strong feelings towards her, negative or otherwise. the important thing to point out is you'll be a better man when you just plain get over them; stop caring about whether she checks your site or not. stop checking your site's daily visitors, if that helps.
 

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This is why the internet has potential to make AFC's of us all.

Knowledge is NOT power in this case. The more you monitor this situation, the worse off you will be. You gain nothing by knowing that she is checking your site if she isn't willing to be involved with you in the real world.
 

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trent81 said:
I was involved with a woman four months ago that I shouldn't have been involved with.
There may be a clue to what she is up to in the quote above.
What happened four months ago ?
 

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Trent, whether you want her back or not, it doesnt hurt to make her jealous. If its facebook your on, I am happy to leave a message on your wall that will surely get a response out of her ;)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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blow her mind? You wonder if it's over?

how about trying to get over Your hurt? Look, if you were indifferent to her, you could care less if she was checking in. The truth is that you are checking in as often as she is.

It appears from your other threads that you've had kind of a bad beakup and still wish that maybe things were different. What will help the most is Eliminating contact with her, not increasing it, and trying to "blow her mind". In trying to do that, you will probably only succeed in blowing your own mind, and not in a good way.
 

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So how should I act next time I see her out somewhere? Would you not even look at her and see if she approaches? How would you handle it?
 
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