i need help..how do i turn a fling into a meaningful relationship?

[wet weather master]

hey..um im kinda new to the game and just made an account but i have a problem that i thought someone friendly might be able 2 help me with..

there is this girl right, that i have seen quite a few times, and i like her alot. we have hooked up and done other stuff and i am falling for her but she has made it clear that she wants a no strings attached relationship, while i want a relationship (she doesnt know that i want a relationship, but i have kinda hinted at it) what should i do? should i tell her that i want a more meaningful relationship or should i just keep going along with her and wait for her to make the first move..if she ever does (i really dont wanna be involved in this fling much longer if it doesnt go anywhere because im falling for her and its bad for me mentally) Thanks for your help peoples...P.s if i was to ask her out how would i do it...its ovious that im an AFC but i am trying to fix myself and i would appreciate your help.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I'd go on vacation and forget about her.
The most important thing you can do here is stay away from feeling attached. You must learn that if you lose a girl, it's no big deal no matter who she is.

Also if you've only hinted, you might wanna tell her that you actually do want a relationship, incase she didn't realize... but when you ask her, DON'T BE AFC ABOUT IT!

Yeah you should go on vacation. Have some fun and forget about her.

 

[john paul]

If she made it clear she doesnt want a relationship then the worse thing you could do is ask her out.
Keep going with it but start getting involved with another girl. This will get you to lose some of that intrest in the fling girl and could get her jelious when she hears of you with another girl. Dont tell her your talking to another girl, it will work much better if she hears it from someone else. She gets jelious and all of a sudden she wants more than just a fling with you.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I was thinking of something like... tell her you want a relationship, or she can find some other lesser-guy to fool with.

 

[john paul]

Alright i got where your coming from now

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

^it also depends on her, cause she might have more than one guy she messes around with. so it could be hard to tell.