"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i need help..how do i turn a fling into a meaningful relationship?

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hey..um im kinda new to the game and just made an account but i have a problem that i thought someone friendly might be able 2 help me with..

there is this girl right, that i have seen quite a few times, and i like her alot. we have hooked up and done other stuff and i am falling for her but she has made it clear that she wants a no strings attached relationship, while i want a relationship (she doesnt know that i want a relationship, but i have kinda hinted at it) what should i do? should i tell her that i want a more meaningful relationship or should i just keep going along with her and wait for her to make the first move..if she ever does (i really dont wanna be involved in this fling much longer if it doesnt go anywhere because im falling for her and its bad for me mentally) Thanks for your help peoples...P.s if i was to ask her out how would i do it...its ovious that im an AFC but i am trying to fix myself and i would appreciate your help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'd go on vacation and forget about her.
The most important thing you can do here is stay away from feeling attached. You must learn that if you lose a girl, it's no big deal no matter who she is.

Also if you've only hinted, you might wanna tell her that you actually do want a relationship, incase she didn't realize... but when you ask her, DON'T BE AFC ABOUT IT!

Yeah you should go on vacation. Have some fun and forget about her.
 
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If she made it clear she doesnt want a relationship then the worse thing you could do is ask her out.
Keep going with it but start getting involved with another girl. This will get you to lose some of that intrest in the fling girl and could get her jelious when she hears of you with another girl. Dont tell her your talking to another girl, it will work much better if she hears it from someone else. She gets jelious and all of a sudden she wants more than just a fling with you.
 
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I was thinking of something like... tell her you want a relationship, or she can find some other lesser-guy to fool with.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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^it also depends on her, cause she might have more than one guy she messes around with. so it could be hard to tell.
 
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