Ok my number one problem is no one listians to me i am really friendly and sometimes ppl just ignore or they just say high or ok and do something else another no girls walk up to me i have to walk to them is it cause i'm short i'm not loser or popular i'm middle lotta friends some nerd some cool dudes known but not known HELP ME OUT!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i consider myself a bit of a nerd too. When I was 11 i was not at all popular with the ladies, but now that i'm 15, i have a lot of good girl friends. Trick is to be confident. Chicks gravitate towards confident people. I'm single, but i've had a few offers. I'm waiting for the right person and that is also a way to get wanted.
Who would of thought. Nerds do exist.
I used to be the same way, but if you want people to listen, you have to say something important. Are you sure they aren't just tired of listening to you?
Start rserving your speech for something important.
One thing at a time.
I used to be the same way, but if you want people to listen, you have to say something important. Are you sure they aren't just tired of listening to you?
Start rserving your speech for something important.
One thing at a time.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Don Juan
This guy is right u know. Man if u keep talkin and tellin everybody everything bout u then theres gonna be a point that theres not gonna be anything left to tell bout. Then eventualy get tired of listenin to u. SO there goes all the mysterious ****. Dont ever say more then nessasary. Also It might just be ur attitude. I got a freind with this weird attitude i mean everytime hes alone or with some1 it doesnt matter he would still smile, laugh, have fun and spice things up whereever he go. He would introduce all kind of different people and make freinds with everybody. Somehow i always want to hang out round this guy and IM A GUY! so its untellin how the chicks would feel bout this guy. soOriginally posted by 08aisaac
Who would of thought. Nerds do exist.
I used to be the same way, but if you want people to listen, you have to say something important. Are you sure they aren't just tired of listening to you?
Start rserving your speech for something important.
One thing at a time.
1. dont act so desperate.
2. say less than nessary.
3. listen to everybodys opinion and share ur own.
4. smile, stopin bein so damn stressed.
This is one of the truest thing I have realized.
I will try to answer your question better. Well people like talking about themselves, so take an interest in them. Try to learn about people, and be interest. Actually listen when they talk to you, and remember the little details about them.
Become a master conversationalist. I swear I could have a convo about anything. I was talking to this really cool chick, about her purse. It was made out of this weird material, and it felt awesome, and I learned that she doesn't really carry purses, and is very unmaterialistic, and we spent like the whole class talking to each other. I learned all sorts about her, just from talking about a purse.
Instead of focusing on talking to the whole class at once, focus on talking to one person, and really getting to know them, then eventually get around to meeting everyone, and knowing something secret about them, so you can have a connection.
Read the bible, they have a whole sectin dedicated to conversation, but I use conversation as my main tool, in attracting people. Oh and don't make fun of people. This is the most important thing, that no one ever discusses. But seriously, you will never know when that person could help you out, and most people hate bullies. I guess I don't need to say this, but you get my point.
I will try to answer your question better. Well people like talking about themselves, so take an interest in them. Try to learn about people, and be interest. Actually listen when they talk to you, and remember the little details about them.
Become a master conversationalist. I swear I could have a convo about anything. I was talking to this really cool chick, about her purse. It was made out of this weird material, and it felt awesome, and I learned that she doesn't really carry purses, and is very unmaterialistic, and we spent like the whole class talking to each other. I learned all sorts about her, just from talking about a purse.
Instead of focusing on talking to the whole class at once, focus on talking to one person, and really getting to know them, then eventually get around to meeting everyone, and knowing something secret about them, so you can have a connection.
Read the bible, they have a whole sectin dedicated to conversation, but I use conversation as my main tool, in attracting people. Oh and don't make fun of people. This is the most important thing, that no one ever discusses. But seriously, you will never know when that person could help you out, and most people hate bullies. I guess I don't need to say this, but you get my point.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is a problem. Well if they don't feel like talking, they might blow you off.
I learned that people, especially girls, want to talk to other people, they are usually just really nervous. Or tired, or some other thing.
Even I don't talk to everyone, because sometimes, they just don't feel like it. I will usually either talk to someone else, or do something else.
But usually, they are just nervous, and either not very open, or they don't like you, or something, and you can't really help it. Try to determine if it is worth talking to them, or if there is someone else that you would rather talk to.
Sometimes, I just don't talk at all, and just look around the room, observing different people, that might be open to conversation, or that might be looking at me, then I smile, and open up to them. But if it is really lame, and the teacher doesn't notice, maybe you can get some shut eye?
I learned that people, especially girls, want to talk to other people, they are usually just really nervous. Or tired, or some other thing.
Even I don't talk to everyone, because sometimes, they just don't feel like it. I will usually either talk to someone else, or do something else.
But usually, they are just nervous, and either not very open, or they don't like you, or something, and you can't really help it. Try to determine if it is worth talking to them, or if there is someone else that you would rather talk to.
Sometimes, I just don't talk at all, and just look around the room, observing different people, that might be open to conversation, or that might be looking at me, then I smile, and open up to them. But if it is really lame, and the teacher doesn't notice, maybe you can get some shut eye?
Allright i hope it's not they dont like me cause i really am trying hard to make my life the way i want it. I got some great friends and i only know like 11 girls who actually talk to me but that's horrible compared to how many guys and i haven had a GF for 3 years.
THANX
THANX
Viper
Banned
It's not what you say it, it's how you say it. You might just have a bad voice like me.
Check out weapons of mass seduction if you want to improve on that, didn't help me, but it might help you.
Check out weapons of mass seduction if you want to improve on that, didn't help me, but it might help you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.