Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ok my number one problem is no one listians to me i am really friendly and sometimes ppl just ignore or they just say high or ok and do something else another no girls walk up to me i have to walk to them is it cause i'm short i'm not loser or popular i'm middle lotta friends some nerd some cool dudes known but not known HELP ME OUT!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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i consider myself a bit of a nerd too. When I was 11 i was not at all popular with the ladies, but now that i'm 15, i have a lot of good girl friends. Trick is to be confident. Chicks gravitate towards confident people. I'm single, but i've had a few offers. I'm waiting for the right person and that is also a way to get wanted.
 

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Who would of thought. Nerds do exist.

I used to be the same way, but if you want people to listen, you have to say something important. Are you sure they aren't just tired of listening to you?

Start rserving your speech for something important.

One thing at a time.
 

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I'm not a nerd u kidding me i fail school but hmmm ppl are sick of listianing to me that might b it never thought of that. How do u make lots and major convo with ppl without them getting bored.

DY
 

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I am a Nerd, except with style. lol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Answering my question might help dude but i doubt ur a nerd
 
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Originally posted by 08aisaac
Who would of thought. Nerds do exist.

I used to be the same way, but if you want people to listen, you have to say something important. Are you sure they aren't just tired of listening to you?

Start rserving your speech for something important.

One thing at a time.
This guy is right u know. Man if u keep talkin and tellin everybody everything bout u then theres gonna be a point that theres not gonna be anything left to tell bout. Then eventualy get tired of listenin to u. SO there goes all the mysterious ****. Dont ever say more then nessasary. Also It might just be ur attitude. I got a freind with this weird attitude i mean everytime hes alone or with some1 it doesnt matter he would still smile, laugh, have fun and spice things up whereever he go. He would introduce all kind of different people and make freinds with everybody. Somehow i always want to hang out round this guy and IM A GUY! so its untellin how the chicks would feel bout this guy. so
1. dont act so desperate.
2. say less than nessary.
3. listen to everybodys opinion and share ur own.
4. smile, stopin bein so damn stressed.
 

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This is one of the truest thing I have realized.

I will try to answer your question better. Well people like talking about themselves, so take an interest in them. Try to learn about people, and be interest. Actually listen when they talk to you, and remember the little details about them.

Become a master conversationalist. I swear I could have a convo about anything. I was talking to this really cool chick, about her purse. It was made out of this weird material, and it felt awesome, and I learned that she doesn't really carry purses, and is very unmaterialistic, and we spent like the whole class talking to each other. I learned all sorts about her, just from talking about a purse.

Instead of focusing on talking to the whole class at once, focus on talking to one person, and really getting to know them, then eventually get around to meeting everyone, and knowing something secret about them, so you can have a connection.

Read the bible, they have a whole sectin dedicated to conversation, but I use conversation as my main tool, in attracting people. Oh and don't make fun of people. This is the most important thing, that no one ever discusses. But seriously, you will never know when that person could help you out, and most people hate bullies. I guess I don't need to say this, but you get my point.
 

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THANX

OK wat about ppl trying to blow u off like u say nice purse and their just like thanx..... that's it nothing else do i continue to convo or just pretend she ain there?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This is a problem. Well if they don't feel like talking, they might blow you off.

I learned that people, especially girls, want to talk to other people, they are usually just really nervous. Or tired, or some other thing.

Even I don't talk to everyone, because sometimes, they just don't feel like it. I will usually either talk to someone else, or do something else.

But usually, they are just nervous, and either not very open, or they don't like you, or something, and you can't really help it. Try to determine if it is worth talking to them, or if there is someone else that you would rather talk to.

Sometimes, I just don't talk at all, and just look around the room, observing different people, that might be open to conversation, or that might be looking at me, then I smile, and open up to them. But if it is really lame, and the teacher doesn't notice, maybe you can get some shut eye?
 

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Allright i hope it's not they dont like me cause i really am trying hard to make my life the way i want it. I got some great friends and i only know like 11 girls who actually talk to me but that's horrible compared to how many guys and i haven had a GF for 3 years.

THANX
 

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It's not what you say it, it's how you say it. You might just have a bad voice like me.
Check out weapons of mass seduction if you want to improve on that, didn't help me, but it might help you.
 

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No i did that highschool thing and asked a couple friends i supposidely only have an annoying or bad voice when i diss someone obvious
 

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Just meet more people, that don't know you, and get to know them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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