"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i need advice: first date ever in 3 hours

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im actually going on my very first date.

it may be inappropriate for me to type in this "problem" that does'nt seem to be one.

but listen up please, i need advice, i dont know... i just have a feeling i'll mess this up, i dont know why...

i need to know everything about first dates or dating for that matter.

what is good to talk about, what not to talk about, what to do, and what not to do?

should i be holding hands with her already on the first date? i'm clueless!

i've read the dj bible, and i know much of the principles, but i dont know if i can actually apply it in real time.

if u are reading this, please reply with any help u can! i am going to get ready for my date, and i need u to help me NOW please!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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whoever you were when you asked this girl out, be that same person. That is who she'll ultimatly want to go out with, and have a good time with.
 
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You asked her out and she said yes, so you already won like most of the battle.

You know she's interested. Just stay calm and have a good time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by bob2007
You asked her out and she said yes, so you already won like most of the battle.

You know she's interested. Just stay calm and have a good time.
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im sorry this may come off as a stupid q yet again, but what if she thinks im boring??

alot of girls tend to like me bcause of my looks and money but after they get to know me... they lose all signs of interest. :(
 
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I heard this in a hindi movie "Jo dar gaya woh mar gaya" which means 'he who is afraid is as good as dead' its applicable to you

Anyway just lead & be fun to be with. Simple

btw add me if you got MSN [email protected]
...we're both 20 & RAFC, im just a bit ahead of you tho
 
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Your very first date, aaaaw it's so precious, NOT.

Congrats on getting your first date. I C you are feeling a bit nervous but what I want you to do is go and mess this one up. Let this be your little experiement. Oh believe me there will be plenty more dates for you, the only way to learn is to dive right in and make mistakes my friend. IT'S THE ONLY WAY TO EFFECTIVELY BECOME THE MAN YOU"VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE.

Walking on eggshells, and worrying about how not to mess this precious, one of a kind date up will get you one tenth of the way compared to going in there, trying new things, messing up and then catching the next date. Take my advice, say invite what you fear.
 
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If it's your first date, just focus on having a good time. You don't need to lay her or get into advanced C&F or whatnot. The first date should just be an experience for its own sake.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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