"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I must be growing up!

diplomatic_lies

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Not sure if I'm becoming a mature person or just retarded, but a few days ago I met this girl who was, at most (without makeup), a 6/10.

For this reason alone I didn't even try to hit on her (shallow arent I?), but thinking over it, I had great fun with her at the party, and I realised I actually wouldn't mind dating her.

Whats weirder is that I would take her over this other HB9 girl I knew from university.

I have absolutely NO idea why I'm attracted to her. Normally I can pinpoint it (ie. smooth face, good body, etc). But this time I can't even come close to figuring out the reasons.


Perhaps looks don't matter as much as I think. Or else I'm turning into a woman.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You are starting to go up a level in maturity, and not be so superficial. Good. Looks are just part of what should atract you to a girl.
 

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Relax, you'll grow out of it.:p

It happens occasionally. I remember I used to occasionally have this gangly brunette in a class at uni. She was, like I said, gangly and nothing special about her face. Hair done in weird pony tails. She wasn't attractive at all really. And I wanted to f*ck her senseless. I couldn't tell you why. Just that X-factor thing I guess.
 

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maybe the fact that this girl doesn't need make up is turning you on because she has no need to hide her true self behind a mask (makeup). It either shows high self-esteem or extremely poor or just doesn't care about how men look at her. In which case she is like us. Not really caring with a "I-Don't-Give-A-Sh!t-Attitude"

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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diplomatic_lies

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Now that you mention it, I recall she has a kind of "dont give a sh!t" attitude, although it isn't obvious (ie. she doesn't do the ****y and funny stuff).

Now if she took more interest in guys, she'd be a hell of a female player, yet nobody could accuse her of being one!
 
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