"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I must be growing up!

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Not sure if I'm becoming a mature person or just retarded, but a few days ago I met this girl who was, at most (without makeup), a 6/10.

For this reason alone I didn't even try to hit on her (shallow arent I?), but thinking over it, I had great fun with her at the party, and I realised I actually wouldn't mind dating her.

Whats weirder is that I would take her over this other HB9 girl I knew from university.

I have absolutely NO idea why I'm attracted to her. Normally I can pinpoint it (ie. smooth face, good body, etc). But this time I can't even come close to figuring out the reasons.


Perhaps looks don't matter as much as I think. Or else I'm turning into a woman.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You are starting to go up a level in maturity, and not be so superficial. Good. Looks are just part of what should atract you to a girl.
 

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Relax, you'll grow out of it.:p

It happens occasionally. I remember I used to occasionally have this gangly brunette in a class at uni. She was, like I said, gangly and nothing special about her face. Hair done in weird pony tails. She wasn't attractive at all really. And I wanted to f*ck her senseless. I couldn't tell you why. Just that X-factor thing I guess.
 

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maybe the fact that this girl doesn't need make up is turning you on because she has no need to hide her true self behind a mask (makeup). It either shows high self-esteem or extremely poor or just doesn't care about how men look at her. In which case she is like us. Not really caring with a "I-Don't-Give-A-Sh!t-Attitude"

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Now that you mention it, I recall she has a kind of "dont give a sh!t" attitude, although it isn't obvious (ie. she doesn't do the ****y and funny stuff).

Now if she took more interest in guys, she'd be a hell of a female player, yet nobody could accuse her of being one!
 
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