"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I must be growing up!

diplomatic_lies

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Not sure if I'm becoming a mature person or just retarded, but a few days ago I met this girl who was, at most (without makeup), a 6/10.

For this reason alone I didn't even try to hit on her (shallow arent I?), but thinking over it, I had great fun with her at the party, and I realised I actually wouldn't mind dating her.

Whats weirder is that I would take her over this other HB9 girl I knew from university.

I have absolutely NO idea why I'm attracted to her. Normally I can pinpoint it (ie. smooth face, good body, etc). But this time I can't even come close to figuring out the reasons.


Perhaps looks don't matter as much as I think. Or else I'm turning into a woman.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You are starting to go up a level in maturity, and not be so superficial. Good. Looks are just part of what should atract you to a girl.
 

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Relax, you'll grow out of it.:p

It happens occasionally. I remember I used to occasionally have this gangly brunette in a class at uni. She was, like I said, gangly and nothing special about her face. Hair done in weird pony tails. She wasn't attractive at all really. And I wanted to f*ck her senseless. I couldn't tell you why. Just that X-factor thing I guess.
 

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maybe the fact that this girl doesn't need make up is turning you on because she has no need to hide her true self behind a mask (makeup). It either shows high self-esteem or extremely poor or just doesn't care about how men look at her. In which case she is like us. Not really caring with a "I-Don't-Give-A-Sh!t-Attitude"

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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diplomatic_lies

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Now that you mention it, I recall she has a kind of "dont give a sh!t" attitude, although it isn't obvious (ie. she doesn't do the ****y and funny stuff).

Now if she took more interest in guys, she'd be a hell of a female player, yet nobody could accuse her of being one!
 
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