"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I might be entering the friend zone, how to avoid it ?

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Long story short, I was supposed to meet with a girl I want to bone. She said she couldn't because her parents couldn't drive to the city (she lives pretty far btw) and I told her I didn't believe her. So she got mad at me because I don't trust her and I was like "whatever" until she said "that's not how friends treat each other". That bit scared the **** out of me, I replied "trust has nothing to do with that" but still I'm not sure I did the right thing.
Either way, how do I avoid to get into the friend zone now ? :(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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the friend zone is not what you think it is
it's not where you arrive when you and that girl become friends

BEING FRIENDS IS FINE IN HIGH SCHOOL
sosuave material speaks avidly against the friend zone because most guys become afc's when they become friends with a girl....think about it...you probably have a friend that's a girl that you dont find attractive...well chances are you'll take her ****...if she asks you to do stuff for her or help her with probs..you normally don't mind because you're friends...

YOU'RE FINE...just kino and hang...you're fine
 
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If you know someone and have a good time with them, you're 'friends'. Doesn't mean you're in the horrible 'friend zone', you're just in one of her social circles most likely and she considers you a new friend.
 
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well thanks a lot guies you really got to make me feel better. :D
 
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mikee said:
Long story short, I was supposed to meet with a girl I want to bone. She said she couldn't because her parents couldn't drive to the city (she lives pretty far btw) and I told her I didn't believe her. So she got mad at me because I don't trust her and I was like "whatever" until she said "that's not how friends treat each other". That bit scared the **** out of me, I replied "trust has nothing to do with that" but still I'm not sure I did the right thing.
Either way, how do I avoid to get into the friend zone now ? :(
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Why didn't you believe her? This is a sign of insecurity which not an attractive trait to a female. Did you tell yourself she blew your off, and is making up a lie? Of course she got mad. Even if she WASN'T interested in you, what is the reason for her to lie to you? Don't worry about being a friend. That's not the issue.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There is no friend zone =/ If she wants you she wants you, if she doesnt, she doesnt, being friends holds no bearing on that fact. The *friend zone* is just an excuse.
 
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Don't be so insecure, go with the flow. Better a lying women than an insecure man.
 
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