I may be not suited to have success with cold approaches

[jhonny9546]

Hi!

Those who know me know I'm short, but attractive.

The most important factor is precisely because I'm short; this kills the cold approach.

But my attractiveness, charisma, and interests lead women to feel attracted over time, both while we're dating and after they've gotten to know me, for common reasons (like being in the same social circle, hanging out with friends, and sharing activities and hobbies).

At this point, the possibility of getting a yes is unlocked for me, and in fact, approaching women after a month or two of knowing each other has always yielded positive results.

In fact, sometimes they'll simply start to let me know, usually within two months of seeing each other in a group.

Do you think I'll ever have any hope with the cold approach, or should I just give up?

Women are attracted to me, but they don't want to show it because the first time they see you, they feel attracted to my beauty and charisma, but at the same time they feel rejected by my short height.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Cold approaching sucks, water is wet

 

[BackInTheGame78]

One of my best friends growing up was of Italian descent and was short and he was one of the biggest pimps I have ever seen. Dude had women fighting over him when we went out.

Stop making excuses. Your height might not be helping but it's your job to overcome it. If you are good looking it shouldn't be that hard.

Your inner belief system is the bigger problem. Your results will largely become what your inner beliefs are because your subconscious mind will find a way to make that reality. Whether or not you actually realize it in the moment.

 

[The Duke]

I doubt it's your height although tall guys have it easier. I'm guessing it has more to do about what you say. You get extremely deep and lots of thought in your messages you post on here. If you speak that way, its not going to produce positive results for cold approaches. Fun, light, and straight forward is how you get it done. Less theory, more action.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Approach the shorter women, Jhonny.

Or move to Mexico.

 

[Bingo-Player]

IF short guys are doing cold approaches the conversation / opener has gotta be really really tight

You need to have her laughing or smiling within the first few sentences , small talk will get you freindzoned fast

Same eventually goes for taller guys but they get more leeway because women generally prefer taller men

 

[BPH]

I doubt it's your height although tall guys have it easier. I'm guessing it has more to do about what you say. You get extremely deep and lots of thought in your messages you post on here. If you speak that way, its not going to produce positive results for cold approaches. Fun, light, and straight forward is how you get it done. Less theory, more action.

@jhonny9546 I think it's this more than anything else.

You routinely dig up extremely old posts and create overly analytical threads for no other reason than to develop theories...for a while, I was convinced you were a bot.

If I had to guess, I would wager that you do NOT come across as calm, cool, and flirty when you talk to women. I would also guess that you are not comfortable being direct with women or making a move.

Your height isn't doing you any favors, but I think you're doing yourself a disservice by believing that it is the ONLY factor affecting your approaches.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@jhonny9546

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-Stop thinking of this as "cold approach", and instead practice sharpening your social acumen

- "Women are attracted to me, but they don't want to show it because the first time they see you, they feel attracted to my beauty and charisma, but at the same time they feel rejected by my short height"

As others have noted: It stands to reason that, currently, it's when you begin talking that sends women/almost everyone else running for the hills