I live with my parents in suburban Delaware, but still get laid a lot - Ask Me Anything

[BPH]

You have found a low overhead business and that's great.

Not spending on advertising can be detrimental. Most brands will need to promote their product/service in order to grow. That said, it is my hope that you can find some zero cost forms of advertising in short term and maybe some lower cost ones too.

I would not recommend paid search/paid social type ads at this time. Those ad campaigns are often a waste of money and difficult to do well. A few brands do well with them but the majority see disappointing outcomes from them.

The current plan is content creation. I just have to get around to it. It's difficult to find somewhere to film in my parents' house without some very distracting background items.

 

[SW15]

The current plan is content creation. I just have to get around to it. It's difficult to find somewhere to film in my parents' house without some very distracting background items.

You are going to need to record videos elsewhere.

I do have a question about your seduction lifestyle that I don't think I've asked.

In another thread today, there was a discussion about male unemployment and/or living with parents. The topic of leadership in a relationship was raised.

Do you feel that your status as an employed male who is 31 and lives with his parents is disqualifying you from longer term, committed relationships? Does it even matter to you? When Roosh wrote his famous 2011 article, he didn't seem bothered that women were disqualifying him for LTRs because he was only getting that feedback from 30+ women seeking marriage/babies, most of whom he perceived as damaged from 10+ years of penis carousel riding.

I don't know if women perceive you as a child for living with your parents.

 

[BPH]

You are going to need to record videos elsewhere.

I do have a question about your seduction lifestyle that I don't think I've asked.

In another thread today, there was a discussion about male unemployment and/or living with parents. The topic of leadership in a relationship was raised.

Do you feel that your status as an employed male who is 31 and lives with his parents is disqualifying you from longer term, committed relationships? Does it even matter to you? When Roosh wrote his famous 2011 article, he didn't seem bothered that women were disqualifying him for LTRs because he was only getting that feedback from 30+ women seeking marriage/babies, most of whom he perceived as damaged from 10+ years of penis carousel riding.

I don't know if women perceive you as a child for living with your parents.

I can't think of any specific time where it's been a dealbreaker.

Usually, if I'm gonna get disqualified, it'll be due to my age, since I'm usually going to bars with mostly college-aged women.

Some never ask (the college girl from April, the girl I met in OCMD that I recently revisited). Some don't care (my long-term FWB, the au pair I got the hotel room with, all of my 3 serious exes). I'd say it's more of a logistical speed bump than a roadblock. I believe I know which thread you're referencing, and the difference is that person seems to be content with that lifestyle, whereas I am not. I recently paid off the entirety of my student loans, so being debt-free should open up some options for more permanent relocation - especially if I decide to leave my job.

To answer your question, I don't believe it disqualifies me from a long-term relationship, but I'm also not seeking one. As long as I can get my rocks off with attractive women on a regular basis, I'm pretty happy with not having obligations to anyone else. I enjoy my free time and being able to do the things I want to do, without others influencing those decisions. I'm not a big fan of having to remember anniversaries, birthdays, and allocating holiday time to my significant other's family - not to mention my most recent ex absolutely murdered Valentine's Day for me, and I'll probably never bother trying to celebrate that again.

When I have my finances in order and have my own place, then I can start putting thought into who I'd want to spend time with long-term. And even then, I don't know about marriage...the more content I watch on it (namely that one divorce lawyer who gives excellent interviews), the less interested I am in giving somebody unilateral power to ruin my life.

 

[SW15]

I don't believe it disqualifies me from a long-term relationship, but I'm also not seeking one.

Roosh believed women seeking relationships would disqualify him back in 2011 at age 31, but he figured that most women around late 20s/early 30s in Metro Washington DC would not have made good wife material from 10+ years of penis carousel riding.

When you aren't seeking a long term relationship, the concept of a male leading a relationship becomes an irrelevant consideration. There are some women that make a big deal out of male leadership in a relationship and how that relates to the concept of masculine-feminine polarity. Without the context of the LTR, it doesn't matter.

As long as I can get my rocks off with attractive women on a regular basis, I'm pretty happy with not having obligations to anyone else. I enjoy my free time and being able to do the things I want to do, without others influencing those decisions. I'm not a big fan of having to remember anniversaries, birthdays, and allocating holiday time to my significant other's family - not to mention my most recent ex absolutely murdered Valentine's Day for me, and I'll probably never bother trying to celebrate that again.

Sex is more important to you than the longer term relationship.

The anniversaries, birthdays, and the holiday season stuff you mentioned can be annoying.

I have enjoyed anniversary and birthday sex with women.

It's disappointing what happened to you on Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day has become a cultural test of one's relationship status at that moment every year.

When I have my finances in order and have my own place, then I can start putting thought into who I'd want to spend time with long-term.

That makes sense.

And even then, I don't know about marriage...the more content I watch on it (namely that one divorce lawyer who gives excellent interviews), the less interested I am in giving somebody unilateral power to ruin my life.

The lawyer that I believe that you are mentioning is James Sexton. James Sexton is the most well known divorce lawyer in the USA in the red pill space. He has mentioned that he read Rollo Tomassi's "The Rational Male" and appeared live on a podcast with Rollo a couple of years ago. James Sexton does have his own YouTube channel now.

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[BPH]

The lawyer that I believe that you are mentioning is James Sexton. James Sexton is the most well known divorce lawyer in the USA in the red pill space. He has mentioned that he read Rollo Tomassi's "The Rational Male" and appeared live on a podcast with Rollo a couple of years ago. James Sexton does have his own YouTube channel now.

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Yep.

This was a fantastic interview, and really made me second-guess what I'd want to do with my future. I'd want to have kids eventually, but I definitely don't want to give somebody the power to ruin my life - emotionally and/or financially.

My dad told me the story about his first wife. He met her in college and got a job offer in New York to pursue his dreams as an artist. This would take him away from this woman, so she gave him the ultimatum: stay with her, here in Delaware...or break up for his work. He chose the former.

If that never happened, I would never be here, because he would've never gotten divorced after she cheated, and met my mother and his current wife. But I decided that I never wanted to allow somebody else to have power over the decisions I made for myself.

 

[SW15]

This was a fantastic interview, and really made me second-guess what I'd want to do with my future. I'd want to have kids eventually, but I definitely don't want to give somebody the power to ruin my life - emotionally and/or financially.

If you want to have kids eventually, it's a good idea to have a stable long term relationship in place. Most middle class + people do that through marriage. I don't think marriage is a necessity for having children. Marriage is a false sense of security for most couples. Most married couples that have children will end the marriage before the oldest child graduates high school (age 18). It often happens before the oldest child finishes 8th grade (age 14).

In the late 2010s, I asked one of my male friends why he chose to get married. He was living with his girlfriend when he proposed marriage. They were in their first year of living together. In theory, he could have kept living her for many years. He said that he proposed when he did because he wanted a future with her and a stable home for any future children they may have had. I think he could have done that without the marriage, but maybe he couldn't have. Earlier in 2025, I was with this friend and his wife one night. She claimed that she would have dumped him had he not proposed marriage by the end of their first 12 month lease living together. She never verbalized that ultimatum to him (unlike another male friend I know who received an ultimatum date for proposal). Since he did propose in that time frame, that breakup never happened. He may have also felt that pressure to propose marriage without her even saying it.

I have not had any children in my LTRs. None of my LTRs have gotten close to having children. The majority of the women I've had sex with have been on birth control while they've been having sex with me, so they weren't prioritizing children when they were with me.

Caleb Jones (aka Alpha Male 2.0, Blackdragon) did post an article once about the decision about whether or not to have children.

The Decision on Whether or Not to Have Kids - Alpha Male 2.0

This is one of the most important topics I’ve talked about on this blog for a while, and a very serious issue. I see way too many of you guys literally flirting with disaster while your entire future teeters on a cliff. A while ago...

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My dad told me the story about his first wife. He met her in college and got a job offer in New York to pursue his dreams as an artist. This would take him away from this woman, so she gave him the ultimatum: stay with her, here in Delaware...or break up for his work. He chose the former.

This is a common scenario for men in long term relationships in their senior year of college. This can also happen with women in their senior year of college and they are dating a sophomore-junior male, though that's a less common occurrence. The more common occurrences are senior male in an LTR with senior female or senior male in an LTR with freshman-junior year.

In senior year, I committed to the idea that I wasn't going to let any romantic relationship dictate my post senior year plans.

Most males who are getting sex while in college are getting sex due to a committed relationship. On college campuses, very few men can get regular, casual short term sex. The men on campus that get short term, uncommitted sex are intercollegiate athletes, guys in the top tier fraternities with good physiques, and some guys who aren't part of fraternities that have good physiques. There's also the outlier guys from wealthy families who might be able to uncommitted sex due to family money, typically by showing off a great car or other possessions while on campus. Outside of those guys, a male is probably going to need to get into some sort of committed relationship to find sex on campus.

Plans after graduation are often issues in college formed relationships.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'd want to have kids eventually, but I definitely don't want to give somebody the power to ruin my life - emotionally and/or financially

Similar to saying: "I want to exist out in the world, rather than in a plastic bubble, but I also want a guarantee that I'll never catch a cold or experience an infection"

Vio condios with that one, hoss. This is The Manosphere equivalent of women dreaming of their own Christian Grey, who'll ONLY hurt them once or twice pre-marriage, and who'll NEVER AGAIN even run his eyes over a ****tail waitress, once they've gotten hitched, much less hit the sheets with a gal other than her

 

[BaronOfHair]

I never understood the disdain for older bachelor men until I got older. Most of them tend to have Peter Pan Syndrome which can be annoying to deal with.

"too often people complain that they have
done nothing with their
lives.
and then they wait for somebody to tell them
that this isn’t so.
look, you’ve done this and that and you’ve
done that and that’s
something.
you really think so?
of course.

but they had it right.
they’ve done nothing.
shown no courage.
no inventiveness.
they did what they were taught to
do
they did what they were told to
do.
they had no resistance, no thoughts
of their own.
they were pushed and shoved
and went obediently.
they had no heart.
they were cowardly.
they stank in life.
they stank up life" Charles Bukowski

Not saying that EVERY hard-core bachelor/MGTOW,/Incel is the sort of person CB skewers here. Just 90% of them

 

[tksniper]

When I was in my teens and twenties I also got laid a lot with little to no effort or even social status. But instead of trying to find a bigger purpose and evolving myself, I decided to develop an ego out of getting laid for something I never earned (being born good looking.) I hope you don’t do the same. Right now in your life is the best time ever to plan for early retirement (when you are 45-50) and being able to travel the world and doing what you want instead of being stuck in the system of employee mindset.