I live with my parents in suburban Delaware, but still get laid a lot - Ask Me Anything

[Divorced w 3]

The only sales I plan to do are those for my own business.

Unless you went to Stanford, had a killer internship and then went directly into Y Combinator, how exactly do you plan on getting the necessary experience in a field to start a business?

 

[BPH]

Unless you went to Stanford, had a killer internship and then went directly into Y Combinator, how exactly do you plan on getting the necessary experience in a field to start a business?

I've started one.

Dating coaching for men who want to get laid more.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I've started one.

Dating coaching for men who want to get laid more.

Now scale it. Market it on google, hire other coaches. Take overhead and pay them a portion.

 

[BPH]

Now scale it. Market it on google, hire other coaches. Take overhead and pay them a portion.

Marketing dating/sex-adjacent services is a grey area...my Stripe account, which I intended to use as my payment processor, was shut down due to the industry and product I was selling.

To comply with Google or Facebook Ads, I'd have to really dumb down the angle that makes me unique: I'm a guy who lives with his parents in suburban Delaware, drives a beat-up Prius, doesn't make much money, but still gets laid a lot and has been with more than 100 women.

Since I cannot say those things in my messaging, I have to generalize myself.

Plus, that's a future problem. Right now I'm trying to find 1 more person and then get those 4 guys amazing results. They'll serve as testimonials, I'll use their experiences as marketing material, their problems as inspiration for other offerings, and their successes to build a track record for myself and build my own credibility.

Everything else can come later. I'm not spending a cent on advertising, and my only overhead is my domain hosting, landing page, and payment processor.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Marketing dating/sex-adjacent services is a grey area...my Stripe account, which I intended to use as my payment processor, was shut down due to the industry and product I was selling.

To comply with Google or Facebook Ads, I'd have to really dumb down the angle that makes me unique: I'm a guy who lives with his parents in suburban Delaware, drives a beat-up Prius, doesn't make much money, but still gets laid a lot and has been with more than 100 women.

Since I cannot say those things in my messaging, I have to generalize myself.

Plus, that's a future problem. Right now I'm trying to find 1 more person and then get those 4 guys amazing results. They'll serve as testimonials, I'll use their experiences as marketing material, their problems as inspiration for other offerings, and their successes to build a track record for myself and build my own credibility.

Everything else can come later. I'm not spending a cent on advertising, and my only overhead is my domain hosting, landing page, and payment processor.

 

[CornbreadFed]

So, what do you do? This should be good.

I'm in sales lol

 

[CornbreadFed]

Marketing dating/sex-adjacent services is a grey area...my Stripe account, which I intended to use as my payment processor, was shut down due to the industry and product I was selling.

To comply with Google or Facebook Ads, I'd have to really dumb down the angle that makes me unique: I'm a guy who lives with his parents in suburban Delaware, drives a beat-up Prius, doesn't make much money, but still gets laid a lot and has been with more than 100 women.

Since I cannot say those things in my messaging, I have to generalize myself.

Plus, that's a future problem. Right now I'm trying to find 1 more person and then get those 4 guys amazing results. They'll serve as testimonials, I'll use their experiences as marketing material, their problems as inspiration for other offerings, and their successes to build a track record for myself and build my own credibility.

Everything else can come later. I'm not spending a cent on advertising, and my only overhead is my domain hosting, landing page, and payment processor.

I am actually doing something similar right now mapping out my product, strategy, client, all the shabang. Sounds like you need to identify your ideal client profile. I just used chatgpt for this, but it's a start. Edit or change anything that suits you lol. I know plenty of guys that suck with dating, but most of them would be a pain in the arse to work with, especially improve them to the point of giving you testimonials and such.

Ideal Client Profile (Dating Coach Version)
1. Basic Information

• Gender/Orientation – Who you primarily serve (e.g., men seeking women, LGBTQ+, women dating post-divorce, etc.)
• Age Range – Ideal age bracket for your coaching success rate
• Location – Local in-person clients vs. global/online
• Relationship Status – Single, recently divorced, widowed, or dating but struggling

2. Demographics

• Career/Income Level – Can they afford your services?
• Lifestyle – Busy professionals, students, retirees
• Education Level – If relevant to your communication style or approach

3. Psychographics

• Values & Goals – Commitment-focused, personal growth-oriented, open-minded
• Personality Type – Introverted, extroverted, socially anxious, confident but unlucky
• Attitude Toward Coaching – Eager to learn, resistant but curious, skeptical

4. Needs & Challenges

• Core Pain Points
  • Difficulty starting conversations
  • Low confidence or self-esteem
  • Poor dating track record
  • Stuck in toxic relationship patterns
  • Confused about modern dating apps & etiquette
• Desired Outcomes
  • Find a long-term partner
  • Become more socially confident
  • Improve communication & flirting skills

5. Buying Triggers

• Life Events – Breakup, divorce, relocation, milestone birthday
• Social Pressure – Friends getting married, family expectations
• Personal Realization – Feeling “stuck” or tired of repeating dating mistakes

6. Red Flags (Who’s NOT a Good Fit)

• Unwilling to put in effort outside of coaching sessions
• Expecting a “magic trick” instead of skill-building
• Deep unresolved trauma that needs therapy first, not dating coaching
• Not open to self-reflection or constructive feedback

7. How You Help Them Win

• Benefits You Provide – Confidence, clarity, strategy, real-world practice, support system
• Differentiators – Your method, past client success stories, unique background or expertise
• Proof Points – Testimonials, before/after transformations, media features

 

[BPH]

I am actually doing something similar right now mapping out my product, strategy, client, all the shabang. Sounds like you need to identify your ideal client profile. I just used chatgpt for this, but it's a start. Edit or change anything that suits you lol. I know plenty of guys that suck with dating, but most of them would be a pain in the arse to work with, especially improve them to the point of giving you testimonials and such.

Ideal Client Profile (Dating Coach Version)
1. Basic Information

• Gender/Orientation – Who you primarily serve (e.g., men seeking women, LGBTQ+, women dating post-divorce, etc.)
• Age Range – Ideal age bracket for your coaching success rate
• Location – Local in-person clients vs. global/online
• Relationship Status – Single, recently divorced, widowed, or dating but struggling

2. Demographics

• Career/Income Level – Can they afford your services?
• Lifestyle – Busy professionals, students, retirees
• Education Level – If relevant to your communication style or approach

3. Psychographics

• Values & Goals – Commitment-focused, personal growth-oriented, open-minded
• Personality Type – Introverted, extroverted, socially anxious, confident but unlucky
• Attitude Toward Coaching – Eager to learn, resistant but curious, skeptical

4. Needs & Challenges

• Core Pain Points
  • Difficulty starting conversations
  • Low confidence or self-esteem
  • Poor dating track record
  • Stuck in toxic relationship patterns
  • Confused about modern dating apps & etiquette
• Desired Outcomes
  • Find a long-term partner
  • Become more socially confident
  • Improve communication & flirting skills

5. Buying Triggers

• Life Events – Breakup, divorce, relocation, milestone birthday
• Social Pressure – Friends getting married, family expectations
• Personal Realization – Feeling “stuck” or tired of repeating dating mistakes

6. Red Flags (Who’s NOT a Good Fit)

• Unwilling to put in effort outside of coaching sessions
• Expecting a “magic trick” instead of skill-building
• Deep unresolved trauma that needs therapy first, not dating coaching
• Not open to self-reflection or constructive feedback

7. How You Help Them Win

• Benefits You Provide – Confidence, clarity, strategy, real-world practice, support system
• Differentiators – Your method, past client success stories, unique background or expertise
• Proof Points – Testimonials, before/after transformations, media features

Trust me, I have the paid version of both ChatGPT and Gemini for this. My chat history for this business is DEEP.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I'm in sales lol

Is it B2B?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Is it B2B?

Yeppers

 

[Chow Mein]

Is it B2B?

I would imagine most people that claim to be in sales are B2B. B2C are just service folks

Career-wise, nothing compares to landing your first 7-figure deal.

 

[Divorced w 3]

IB2C are just service folks

Incorrect

 

[CornbreadFed]

I would imagine most people that claim to be in sales are B2B. B2C are just service folks

Career-wise, nothing compares to landing your first 7-figure deal.

B2Cs are the blue collars of sales and have really big but fragile egos

 

[Clockwerk50]

I would imagine most people that claim to be in sales are B2B. B2C are just service folks

Career-wise, nothing compares to landing your first 7-figure deal.

It's hard to say. Some people might be selling furniture at a brick-and-mortar store, cell phones at a kiosk in the middle of the mall, or going door to door, and still call themselves sales reps.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yeppers

I've lost two-thirds of the sales reps in my territory. My company is adamant about raising prices — we've already had two increases this year — which makes it easy for the competition to undercut us. Since price competitiveness isn't our current focus, we have no real leverage in that area.

The sales reps who left went to the competition, where they were offered better base salaries and possibly commissions. When they approached our company to ask for raises, they were essentially shown the door. Most of the remaining reps in my territory have less than a year of experience in the industry. Currently, we hold 17% of the market share.

That said, in good years, breaking six figures is fairly easy — and that’s not even counting perks like driving a company-owned vehicle. OP could consider transitioning into B2B sales if he is looking for a better opportunity.

 

[BPH]

Let's try not to get too off-topic with the sales stuff; that conversation might be better had in Anything Else.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

‘Always be escalating’ - book of pook

where does it say always be escalating on bookof pook. Ive read that **** like over a hundre times

 

[Plinco]

‘Always be escalating’ - book of pook

Sounds like you got that from this:

 

[Divorced w 3]

where does it say always be escalating on bookof pook. Ive read that **** like over a hundre times

Technically it was called something like “the sexual guys get the girls”

 

[SW15]

I'm not spending a cent on advertising, and my only overhead is my domain hosting, landing page, and payment processor.

You have found a low overhead business and that's great.

Not spending on advertising can be detrimental. Most brands will need to promote their product/service in order to grow. That said, it is my hope that you can find some zero cost forms of advertising in short term and maybe some lower cost ones too.

I would not recommend paid search/paid social type ads at this time. Those ad campaigns are often a waste of money and difficult to do well. A few brands do well with them but the majority see disappointing outcomes from them.