"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"I like you" - IOI or LJBF

joe bloggs

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Went on a date with a lady banker that I met on a dating site. We met up for drinks and hit it off, about halfway through she said: "I like everything; I like my job, I liked my college, I like this restaurant, I like you" - is this an indication of interest or a LJBF?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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daygameguy

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ioi... but misinterpret that anyway and say - "really... are you hitting on me.. i'm totally not boyfriend material.. lets find you a guy.. how's that one :)?"
 

r0cky

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Yes, thats an IOI, my discerning friend.
If she had said "I don't like you", that would not be an IOI.
Also, if she had said lets just be friends, then that would mean she has LJBF you.
I hope this helps.

BTW. I hope you're aware of my sarcasm.
 

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Always assume attraction. don't waste your time with IOIs. Just go for it. Just go for what you want. You won't fail because you've tried, and that's a lot more than what most men will do. If you don't try, you've failed. Forget IOIs.

Assume it's on. Don't wait for her because you're the man. You're the leader. Guess what! You'll save yourself a lot of time by assuming attraction.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mavrick said:
Always assume attraction. don't waste your time with IOIs. Just go for it. Just go for what you want. You won't fail because you've tried, and that's a lot more than what most men will do. If you don't try, you've failed. Forget IOIs.

Assume it's on. Don't wait for her because you're the man. You're the leader. Guess what! You'll save yourself a lot of time by assuming attraction.
IOIs are not always accurate. IODs always are accurate. If things look good, go for it! The time you're wasting wondering whether this girl is into you or not is time you could be using to get attraction up and then get a date!
 

Jaxon

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Her saying "I like you" sounds more like a sh*t test than anything.

She was most likely testing you to see if you would crumble and goo and gush your feelings over her, or if you'd play it cool, or better yet not even really react.
 
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