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I lead the phone conversation and ended first, now she thinks i'm hesitant??

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I've known this girl for a while and we decided to go out because she's moving away in a few months. We talked on the phone to set up a date..and I led the convo, and ended the conversation. She emails me a few days later, saying that I seemed hesitant & uncomfortable (i totally don't think i was)...and that if I didn't want to catch up and meet, that was ok by her. What is wrong with this girl?!?!? Or am I just playing hot & cold on her and didnt even know it...

thanks for the input gentlemen
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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if she thinks u sounded uncomfortable, u probably sounded uncomfortable.

relax next time, man
 

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i have a lot of experience talking to women, i talk for a living, I know it wasn't because i came accross as uncomfortable
 

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maybe she's not used to guys ending conversations with her first...thus she felt i came across as disinterested?
 

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I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing, you've sent her mixed signals and got her thinking about you.
 

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seagull said:
I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing, you've sent her mixed signals and got her thinking about you.
UPDATE:

So i cleared things up with her and told her that I didn't mean to 'hurt her feelings'...and we went out again. We had a great time, and now she's texting me saying she had a great time, and asking me how my day's been...
 
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