You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).Cableguy said:I would've said "I'm kinda busy."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
that fits my style perfectly.....on another note STOKED cuz shes a chill ass DIME thanks for the responsesTheBucketOfTruth said:Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).
To each his own. I probably would have said "you kinda should do something about that," or some variation on that theme.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Of course you have to take into account things like that. In my original response I said I would've replied that I was "kinda" busy. I wouldn't ignore the text totally unless I was with another girl.Wolf said:Erm, did you think that maybe the girl is a little nervous? Sometimes they say stuff like "I kind of like you" instead of being more direct because they are a little uncomfortable/nervous. I mean, she's being direct enough like that. I don't know man, but I wouldn't blow her off.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I like that.. thats prolly the right response IMO.TheBucketOfTruth said:Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).
To each his own. I probably would have said "you kinda should do something about that," or some variation on that theme.