Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).Cableguy said:I would've said "I'm kinda busy."
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
that fits my style perfectly.....on another note STOKED cuz shes a chill ass DIME thanks for the responsesTheBucketOfTruth said:Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).
To each his own. I probably would have said "you kinda should do something about that," or some variation on that theme.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Of course you have to take into account things like that. In my original response I said I would've replied that I was "kinda" busy. I wouldn't ignore the text totally unless I was with another girl.Wolf said:Erm, did you think that maybe the girl is a little nervous? Sometimes they say stuff like "I kind of like you" instead of being more direct because they are a little uncomfortable/nervous. I mean, she's being direct enough like that. I don't know man, but I wouldn't blow her off.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I like that.. thats prolly the right response IMO.TheBucketOfTruth said:Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).
To each his own. I probably would have said "you kinda should do something about that," or some variation on that theme.