When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).Cableguy said:I would've said "I'm kinda busy."
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
that fits my style perfectly.....on another note STOKED cuz shes a chill ass DIME thanks for the responsesTheBucketOfTruth said:Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).
To each his own. I probably would have said "you kinda should do something about that," or some variation on that theme.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Of course you have to take into account things like that. In my original response I said I would've replied that I was "kinda" busy. I wouldn't ignore the text totally unless I was with another girl.Wolf said:Erm, did you think that maybe the girl is a little nervous? Sometimes they say stuff like "I kind of like you" instead of being more direct because they are a little uncomfortable/nervous. I mean, she's being direct enough like that. I don't know man, but I wouldn't blow her off.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I like that.. thats prolly the right response IMO.TheBucketOfTruth said:Unless the girl is a true attention ***** and you know she won't fool around with you, this seems like you'd be playing too hard to get (assuming you aren't actually busy).
To each his own. I probably would have said "you kinda should do something about that," or some variation on that theme.