"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just met this girl.....

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We have talked one time, and I haven't done anything else yet. I didn't get a number or anything, but I need to ask some advice first.


She seems.... somewhat interested. She initiated kino a little after we met, and I went along with it. I kept her smiling and laughing the whole time we were together.

We were going around campus learning about all the clubs and sports and stuff..... She stopped at one about football, and I was standing next to her. I was like "You should considering going over to that table." I pointed at the Gay/Lesbian table, and she started cracking up. She hit me pretty hard on my arm, and smiled. She even came back with a few neg hits of her own. We had a pretty good time. :)


Anywho...... I've been keeping tabs on her for a few days,(Yeah, I admit it) and I've learned she's 'In A Relationship' according to facebook. Outside of that, I have no idea about the relationship. I don't know who, how long, where.... etc.... anything.... So.... I'm wondering, should I keep playfully talking to her, and get her number, and try to set up dates or something? Or should I just occasionally say "Hey." and wait until she's out of a relationship? (idk, maybe she'll never be...)


Anyone have any ideas...?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HandyAndy

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Yea get her number, who cares if she has a BF. I had a girl offer me her number while she was in a relationship. No biggie, but then again, im 15 years old, what do i know?
 
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Before you self-implode - garner if there are signs of interest! Is she just being chummy or romantic??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dont believe her facebook crap, shes done that to make weirdos stay away. Looks like a green light to me ask her out already, and you better come back with a kiss.
 

HandyAndy

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SmokeyTx said:
I personally dont like going for women who are in a relationship, but you can keep up the playfull banter, and even tease her about her relationship.... "you didnt have a chance with me anyway"...:kick:
omg that line is genius, im too stupid to think of good stuff like that :cuss:
 
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